Advice needed

[Rebelpup1]

I'm new here so please be kind. I'm due to go into hospital in 2 weeks for a planned c section and I'm looking for some advice. All being well, I'm hoping to be out in a 2 or 3 days. If the hospital are happy to discharge baby but not me I plan to discharge myself if I feel I can cope better at home however my husband is refusing to drive us home if I do this. The only other option I have is asking my mum to drive us home but my husband has said if she does, he'll make sure she never sees the baby again. I'm wondering how others got home when they had no partner/family to collect them. My options as far as I can see are taxi or train however I live 40+ miles from the hospital so I'm pretty sure I can't afford a taxi. Has anyone taken a newborn on a train so soon and if so how did it go? Also, can I request that the Dr doesn't tell him if I discharged myself? I'm not sure if it counts as confidential medical information or not. Just to add, this is my second section so I'm reasonably aware what to expect recovery wise.
Thanks

You won't be in any state to take a baby on a long train journey just after a C section.
It's major surgery.

Why are you so adamant on discharge? I think your husband is (rightly) worried about you.

It's really unlikely that your baby would be discharged without you. Unless you were going to be in for a very extended period. If it's just a few days then baby will stay with you until you're ready to leave.

Hospitals don't discharge babies without their mothers!

If baby is fit to be discharged they just won’t have any further input from the team but they will stay with you until you are ready barring any(unlikely) serious itu complications

To echo a PP why do you want to be discharged so badly?

The last time I was in hospital was my last c section at 28 weeks and I lost my son. I'm going to be in the same hospital and I'm already dreading being there with what happened with my first.

You have had a traumatic time BUT if you discharge yourself against medical advice then you are putting your health at risk.
You could die or become very unwell and have to go back into hospital without your baby
What then?

I'm so sorry about your son.

Are you under the care of perinatal mental health team?

They should be doing all they can to reassure you following your previous experience.

I have had two births and each time baby was discharged before me but stayed with me until I was ready to go home.

Incidentally I did self discharge due to delays on their side but the support of my family in my decision reassured me I was making the right choice.

I don't like what your husband has said about your mum never seeing your child if she helps you get home but it does sound like he is genuinely worried about you so maybe be trying all he can to keep you safe.

How would you be transporting the baby straight out of surgery? I understand your concern but the hospital will be the safest place for both of you until you're ready to go home.

I think you'll have trouble carrying everything so soon after major surgery.

They won't discharge the baby before you and send baby home!