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C-section 9 months again and due to give birth again in 3 months.

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Kayla03 · 31/12/2022 13:36

Hi!

My first born is currently 9 months old, he was an IVF baby and delivered him via c-section. Much to our surprise we found out we was pregnant when he was just 3 months old!

I am currently torn between trying for a VBAC or going for a C-section again, due to the risks. My doctors have said they are happy for me to try either way.

I would be so grateful to hear of anyone's experience who has been through the same thing ??

Thanks!

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PritiPatelsMaker · 31/12/2022 15:22

No experience but just wanted to say congratulations at your unexpected but hopefully happy news Flowers

CleoandRalf · 31/12/2022 15:40

There are very good reasons why medical professionals advocate for birth control post delivery, especially with a section.

We had a scare due to contraceptive failure after delivery and decided to terminate as medically we understood the risks and didn’t want to risk it until fully recovered and had another section for our second when they came along a couple of years later.

Jellycats4life · 31/12/2022 15:42

I would just have an elective section. Having had one myself, and a natural birth, I’d always seek to avoid the natural birth. You don’t need to be a hero 😉

PritiPatelsMaker · 31/12/2022 15:43

That's not very helpful cleo. The OP is 6 months PG, what's she supposed to do?

CleoandRalf · 31/12/2022 15:48

PritiPatelsMaker · 31/12/2022 15:43

That's not very helpful cleo. The OP is 6 months PG, what's she supposed to do?

She asked for those who have had the same choices, I did, and gave mine.

The risks are very high, hence why most make an effort to listen to medical professionals. Ensuring you’re around for your first child should always trump continuing with a second.

Newusernameaug · 31/12/2022 15:54

CleoandRalf · 31/12/2022 15:48

She asked for those who have had the same choices, I did, and gave mine.

The risks are very high, hence why most make an effort to listen to medical professionals. Ensuring you’re around for your first child should always trump continuing with a second.

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No, the OP asked for people with experience of this situation and which type of birth to have - not whether to terminate or not.

Youre clearly just being mean and nasty - I wonder if you’re actually like this to peoples faces or get off on being a bitch behind the keyboard?

Congratulations on the pregnancy OP, no advice but wish you all the best ❤️

My friend had twins via IVF and also feel pregnant at 3 months post partum, it’s been great for the children growing up!

mathanxiety · 31/12/2022 15:55

She no longer has the same choices that you had, and your response maybe belongs on another thread - this one is about birth choices.

mathanxiety · 31/12/2022 15:56

And quite frankly, lecturing a woman on her duty to her first child is boakworthy, in my not so humble opinion.

Cuppasoupmonster · 31/12/2022 15:56

Why did you have first CS and how did the labour go? Also how old are you? These are all things that predict your likelihood of success with VBAC.

StuntNun · 31/12/2022 16:01

I had a successful VBAC with my second, although with a much bigger age gap between children. The agreement with my doctor was that I would be monitored during labour and if my active labour lasted longer than four hours then I would have to have a section in order to minimise the risk of uterine rupture. In the end my labour lasted four-and-a-half hours but by four hours it was too late to initiate a section. I did have an episiotomy that was probably not needed in hindsight, but that was the doctor's decision as there was the risk of uterine rupture so I believe she made the best decision with the information she had available. Ultimately I think it comes down to your preferences. If you try for a VBAC and there's any doubt that it is the right decision, your team will be prepared to switch to a caesarean delivery. What would you prefer?

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jackstini · 31/12/2022 16:05

Emcs for first and elcs for second

I was considering vbac but at 36 wk appointment I asked for advice and due to size of baby and previous failure to dilate, they estimated success of a natural birth at 30% and said elcs would probably be safer

I had almost 3 years between

Congratulations - even if a bit of a shock!

Scottishgirl85 · 31/12/2022 16:13

I think you need to take medical advice and discuss the risks with both routes, not from randoms on the Internet - but congratulations!

Orangesare · 31/12/2022 16:23

I had a great VBAC but there was a three year gap. I was monitored throughout labour which was reassuring. So if they will let you choose, just choose.
Mt VBAC was unplanned as advice differed on how successful a VBAC would be. Emcs first time was due to baby being too big and me being too small.

Thedogscollar · 31/12/2022 19:08

Hi @Kayla03
You will be considered to be having a high risk pregnancy and be under consultant led care. If you opt for VBAC they will want to continuously monitor fetal heart rate throughout labour they may want to cannulate you so bloods will be sent to the lab should you require another caesarean section.
The midwife will keep you informed of your progress in labour by undertaking vaginal examinations usually 4hrly or earlier depending on the situation. From these examinations they can let you and the obstetricians how far dilated your cervix is, if the head is descending well and the position of your baby.
Obviously you will be informed of the risks of scar dehisence and the midwife is well trained in the signs and symptoms of this.
Good luck whatever option you choose. Obviously you have more control having a second elective section but then post operatively with two young babies to care for might be the deal breaker unless you have a lot of support once you go home.

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Kayla03 · 31/12/2022 19:15

CleoandRalf · 31/12/2022 15:40

There are very good reasons why medical professionals advocate for birth control post delivery, especially with a section.

We had a scare due to contraceptive failure after delivery and decided to terminate as medically we understood the risks and didn’t want to risk it until fully recovered and had another section for our second when they came along a couple of years later.

Our first was an IVF baby. Our chances of conceiving naturally were VERY low. I know you are more fertile after, but we were very naive to the fact that it could happen. We talked through all the risks, and all drs confirmed to us that we would be just fine and it happens more than you realise!

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Kayla03 · 31/12/2022 19:17

Thedogscollar · 31/12/2022 19:08

Hi @Kayla03
You will be considered to be having a high risk pregnancy and be under consultant led care. If you opt for VBAC they will want to continuously monitor fetal heart rate throughout labour they may want to cannulate you so bloods will be sent to the lab should you require another caesarean section.
The midwife will keep you informed of your progress in labour by undertaking vaginal examinations usually 4hrly or earlier depending on the situation. From these examinations they can let you and the obstetricians how far dilated your cervix is, if the head is descending well and the position of your baby.
Obviously you will be informed of the risks of scar dehisence and the midwife is well trained in the signs and symptoms of this.
Good luck whatever option you choose. Obviously you have more control having a second elective section but then post operatively with two young babies to care for might be the deal breaker unless you have a lot of support once you go home.

Thank you for the extra information, very helpfully! My consultant did say that me and baby would have extra monitoring but that's all they've said so far! Seeing them again Tuesday!

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Kayla03 · 31/12/2022 19:18

Scottishgirl85 · 31/12/2022 16:13

I think you need to take medical advice and discuss the risks with both routes, not from randoms on the Internet - but congratulations!

Thank you! I was just looking to hear other people's experiences who have been in the same situation!

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CleoandRalf · 31/12/2022 19:18

Kayla03 · 31/12/2022 19:15

Our first was an IVF baby. Our chances of conceiving naturally were VERY low. I know you are more fertile after, but we were very naive to the fact that it could happen. We talked through all the risks, and all drs confirmed to us that we would be just fine and it happens more than you realise!

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Our first was an IVF baby too, the drs are unlikely to have told you it would all be fine, considering the increased risks, especially if you have another section.

It does happen quite often, hence why most make a real effort to not risk it, or take tough decisions when it does.

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Kayla03 · 31/12/2022 19:20

Thank you all for the nice comments with your congratulations, definitely a shock but worth it :)

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Kayla03 · 31/12/2022 19:23

Thank you @Newusernameaug ♥️
Amazing to hear about your friend having twins with IVF then falling pregnant naturally. Miracle babies!

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Kayla03 · 31/12/2022 19:29

@CleoandRalf obviously they mentioned all the risks and complications that can happen. Before going ahead with the pregnancy, I spoke to multiple drs / midwifes and whether it was ok to continue and they reassured me that it happens and said the chances were small. Not one of them said I needed to terminate.

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tillyrainbow · 31/12/2022 19:36

Congratulations OP. I had EMCS with first and had opted for VBAC with second so that I would be more mobile from the get go, drive etc. Ended up having a EMCS with second too and recovery was much harder - In a lot of pain, scar became infected. You still have some time to decide. Good luck!

MrsT36 · 31/12/2022 19:39

Congratulation!! I’m due my second IVF baby early May. Got pregnant when baby 1 was 12 months. I’ve already signed up for another elective section!
With my first I felt like we’ve been though so much to get them the most important thing is to get them delivered safely so I picked elective section.
I could have tried for a VBAC but baby 1’s head was 96th centile and this one is measuring similar, the fact they had to use forceps to get him out of the c-section incision has defo swayed me! Good luck either way, you’ll get all the extra monitoring you need to keep safe x

mathanxiety · 01/01/2023 02:42

It does happen quite often, hence why most make a real effort to not risk it, or take tough decisions when it does.

Still preaching, eh?