Did you experience embarassment over false alarms?

[gratefulmamatobe]

I am 40+2 weeks pregnant today and whilst out today with BF and another couple, I felt a gush down below.... to which I startled and said "I think my waters just went"

Everyone obviously was like WOAH and me and BF went to hosp to check.... turns out it wasn't waters (must have just been incontinence or discharge)

I felt so stupid and embarrassed having to message them and say it wasn't my waters.

A few weeks back I also went into hosp with another false alarm - thinking I had contractions but it was just BH.

I'm feeling rather stupid right now... like the boy who cried wolf and honestly scared to say if I start feeling anything again.

Anyone else experience these false alarms and embarassment / feeling like a fool when it comes to nothing?

Don't be embarrassed - this happens every day in every maternity unit in the land and across the world! Its hard to know sometimes, especially with your first. Never be worried to call and go in. Good luck!

I understand you feel this way but there is no need. Better safe than sorry, your baby comes first. Don’t let that stop you from going to the hospital again if anything happens. Hope you don’t have to wait much longer!

I remember having a bush of water and thinking they’d gone, I’d had a bath and um, obviously held on to some of the bath water.

When my waters did go, it was just a slow leak, no gush at all.

Don't be embarrassed, it’s really hard to tell.

Nothing to be embarrased about - I kind of had the opposite with DS; had planned c-sections for both, started having stomach pains the afternoon before going in for c-section with DS but so many of my friends had false alarms that I thought that's probably all it was, and it didn't seem that painful. Around midnight my waters did break, I went to hospital and DS was born my what became an emergency c-section (albeit a very chilled out emergency) 8 hours ahead of schedule! I didn't feel too silly as I'd never experience contractions with my oldest, so how was I to know?

They did tell me when they inspected the cervix that I seemed to have been 'in labour for some time' and I do wish now I'd asked them how dilated I was, but didn't occure to me at the time. C-section proceeded as I have a skeletal issue that meant we couldn't be sure a vaginal birth wouldn't dislocate my hip and consensus was it would be best not to test that out!

Reading this has brought me so much comfort. Thankyou!!!!!

Currently having lots of BH.. not painful at all but tummy going rock hard. I hope baby shows her face soon 💕💕💕

It's so hard to tell isn't it!! I think there's an element of wishful thinking too.... because we are willing it to happen!! Haha

So nice to know I'm not alone. Thankyou xxx

Better to come to nothing than something be wrong!

I went in worried I was being stupid and it was nothing and it turned out I had preeclampsia.

They’d always rather you go in just in case!

Ah wow, yes that's so true. Imagine if we didn't go and then it turns out something was wrong. I'd never forgive myself.

Thanks for the reassurance xx

I went in I think 3 times with fake water breaking OP, so you’re not alone! All in the last week when I was in loooong latent labour.

Don't feel too embarrassed, you did the right thing even if your friends do now think you wer yourself!

My own story is going to the maternity unit on Boxing Day. I was 6 months pg, experiencing tummy pains and hadn't felt the baby move for a while. I was hooked up to the monitor and thankfully baby was ok and I'd just over-indulged at Christmas

I went in 4 times for contractions with DS2 that stopped after a few hours and never led to labour. Wasn't embarrassed at all as DS1 was a very fast birth so wasn't worth the risk of "wait and see". Turned out DS2 was an unstable lie and the huge movements and flips were triggering contractions so I was right to go in. Always better safe than sorry and never be embarrassed

On my first I had a little leak of water every few hours on an appointment day with my midwife. rushed off to see my midwife who told me it was wee 🙈😳 this happened every couple of hours for 2 days then my contractions started! I wasn't weeing it was my waters! I was 37 weeks and it was first baby. Ended up with an infection as did my baby. Go get checked! I was told the midwife should have tested me with a swab. Apparently if amniotic fluid is present it turns orange. Although we were both ok wish I had gone to the hospital and not the community midwife!

Ah you were very lucky it was only an infection. I know once the waters break you should give birth within 24 hours. By the end of the 2 days you probably didn’t have any amniotic fluid left 😓

I think mine broke during labour but I thought it was just normal discharge as you’re supposed to have a lot of that during pregnancy. When I wasn’t progressing - the next day, and the midwife said let’s break your waters, nothing came up. But my baby was born that evening and I had a monitor and was under supervision.

OP, been there too! Announced to my MIL that my DP had to take me to the hospital because my waters were starting....to then have to text and say I'd just wet myself slightly 😯 please don't be embarrassed, the midwives would always rather tell you it's a false alarm and to go home, than have you at home panicking