Hidden pregnancy

[Worried5432]

Soo… I’m basically full term. No scan. No help no intervention. I literally thought this pregnancy wouldn’t make it the whole time after loosing babies left right and Center. I shit myself and just hid. Now it’s too late to ask for help. What do I do? Go into labour naturally or walk into a labour ward and cry. My partner of 10 years has no idea. My son who’s 7 doesn’t either. I appreciate this is crazy but to me I don’t carry big. My partner is a massive stress head and after loosing 5 pregnancies 3 traumaticly I resisted saying anything because I want to protect him. I’ve literally carried on regardless but now obviously shitting myself . Please don’t judge

I’ll add my first was a section at 36 weeks. I have no actual experience of labour. I lost all water and was admitted for a section.i appreciate I’m stupid. Crazy and unbelievably up a creek without a paddle. My relationship is probably on the line because I’ve tried to protect the very same thing. Im

Call or go to your local labor ward.
It's full of lovely people who have the expertise to help you with everything!
💐

Appologies Worried5432, there was another user called Worried54321, and in the middle of the night, I didn't notice the difference in the names.

Best of luck with your baby

I knew someone who walked into A&E with severe unexplained stomach pains and came home a few days later with a baby! Obviously you're in a different situation, but my point is that you won't be the first person the midwives have seen who's not had scans and so on.

My advice would be to ring your local community midwives, I'm sure they'll be kind and understanding. And then tell your partner so he's prepared to support you.

Are you employed? If so you probably need to tell your employer ASAP if you want maternity pay. I don't know how that will work - you're generally supposed to tell them by 15 weeks but there are probably ways to sort it out even at this point (again, there are people who don't know until baby arrives so there must be something that can be done.)

My apologies too, confusion with the very similar user names.

If you can't face it, just tell your partner you have felt something moving inside and you think you're pregnant? Be surprised. Don't know how you could have missed it etc. Then make an apt with the doctor asap and they'll refer you up.. at least you might have time to get things sorted. It will all be okay! But it really is safer to go and get checked over. The GP can start with your BP etc and referring you on xx

I think I’d just pretend I’d just realised. Get a pregnancy test, do it and then be shocked you’re so far along. If anyone mentions it, just say you thought you were gaining weight and can’t believe it either. Do you know when you think you’re due?

I'd be more concerned about things like placenta praaevia if you haven't been scanned, as someone who's had it twice, I'm pretty sure it's not safe to go into labour with it?

Statistically it's probably unlikely that you do but just to be on the safe side for both you and the baby.

^Speaking as someone who's had it twice, that should have said

Op, DM me if you want to ask anything personal, but I went through something similar. More than once.
Any health professional will be happy to see you, and will be glad that you've sought help.
More than likely they will refer you to the safeguarding team. They'll have a meeting with you, ask you every question under the sun, and decide what to do from there. As in, is your baby safe with you, any further action required etc etc.
Honestly I think you will be fine though and I know it's easier said than done, but try not to worry.
Oh and I hope your partner takes it well! Good luck

Totally get why you've done it, but gosh your now in a tough situation. You need to tell your partner asap, and you need to checked over. As others have said, god forbid something happened and your partner wasn't aware of what was going on (i.e. you passed out, fell over etc) then the correct info may not be given to medical people during an emergency. Secondly, we all fear being shamed/scolded but you need to be checked over asap, personally I'd ring antenatal at your local hospital, they're more likely to get you an appointment sorted asap and you can have traces/scans etc going to gp, then being referred etc could take days.
You've got this! x

OP, how are you doing? Hope everything is okay. X

Hi OP, have you had your baby yet?