Hello! In my area Doula's range from £300 to £2000 depending on the package you want. You can have virtual support so someone on the phone to call and ask questions to including during labour, you can have a session to discuss your hopes and then support during the birth or you can have 1-to-1 hynobirthing courses, support throughout labour and delivery and they will come to your home afterwards to help you settle in, it depends on what you want.
For me the process of finding a doula was great, there was a website run by several local doulas. You emailed with what you were looking for and they put you in touch with the person they thought best suited but you could request anyone and they did not take it personally.
As it happened, I was accepted for a pilot continuity of care program where I had a named midwife who I met with regularly in the hospital and my home and who was the one who delivered the baby. Basically a doula and midwife rolled into one as she really got to know me and what I wanted. It made all the difference in the world. My birth had some of the hallmarks of what would have been a difficult birth i.e. back to back, got stuck, I lost a lot of blood and nearly needed a transfusion but I can honestly state I loved my birth and view it with such fondness. I'm actually looking forward to doing it again and I 100% credit that to my amazing midwife.
Things the midwife did that a doula could do for you if you can't get on a continuity of care program with a midwife you love:
- Provided lots of information before and during so I understood exactly what was happening and didn't panic
- Got to know my partner and actively involved him in preparation and how to support during labour so we felt like a team
- Protected the birthing space. She made sure it was warm, dark and limited interuptions so I could totally be in the zone
- Advocated for me. Another younger midwife came in and wanted me to come to the side of the pool to check on the baby but the midwife said not yet, let me find a natural break and then stuck the dopler under the water to keep me in my zone
- Breathing coaching during labour as it is so important not to lose control over your breath
- Was fully responsive to changes. I thought I wanted fairy lights and had made a playlist with all my favourite music. In fact when I was in the midst of it I needed total silence and almost complete darkness, she made it happen
- As she knew me she could tease me when I needed to lighten up, remind me of things and gave me personalised care
She wasn't on duty when I first came into the hospital and had to be called so I had 30mins without her and I noticed when I was in the space with people I didn't know, I was so much tighter. Sounds silly but I didn't take off my maternity bra when I got into the pool as I wasn't comfortable. When she took over and managed the space I felt totally safe and was able to get naked, let go and do the thing.
I saw how valuable this connection was and if I couldn't get her again I would pay for a doula.