PP Issues - Not in right frame of mind to get help

[xxcatcatcatxx]

I had no idea what to even title this. I’m getting so depressed about post partum - anything body related. I’m fine otherwise so would appreciate if depression isn’t suggested as I really just need advice if anyone has it for the below situation;

I’ve feel I’ve missed deadlines on everything PP and I genuinely don’t know what to do or how I’m going to explain this mess to a medical professional.

Issue 1: Bowel incontinence - mentioned it to the GP at my check up who gave me the number for physio. Checked the website and turns out you only have 10 days to refer yourself Post Partum so now I don’t know what to do. I can’t control my bowels and although it’s got a little better I still am having issues with urgency and not being able to control wind.

Do I go back to my GP or should I call the number anyway. How the hell am I going to explain that I was too scared to call as a 34 year old woman.

Issue 2: Ovarian Cyst: Had a scan booked in which I missed because I’m still so sore and was so exhausted I completely forgot about it. Have rescheduled for middle of June but I really want to cancel as I haven’t healed at all.

Haven’t tried sex etc so the thought of having an internal exam is just making me cry as I’m typing. I missed my first one so I can’t re-book this one the lady said. I just don’t know how to explain I don’t want to go at the moment. Does anyone know if I can get referred through a GP when I’m feeling ready for a scan?

I know I’m being silly but I’m so sore still from birth and the last thing I want is anyone down their at all. It’s making me so upset and I feel even more stupid for crying about it.

Thanks in advance xxx

[Angelina12]

I will be 4 weeks pp tomorrow, I keep getting a clear white discharge but also keep getting pink and brown mixed in it especially in the morning, Is the end in sight?? It’s been like this for a week 🥲

[Dyra]

@Angelina12 Wrong thread. But, had all your bleeding stopped prior to this?

@xxcatcatcatxx Firstly, congratulations on your baby.

Secondarily, how many weeks post partum are you now? Could be within the realms of normal for vaginal soreness to still be present. Especially if you had a tear that required stitching.

Thirdly. Breathe. Relax. Healthcare professionals are well used to people waiting to get help in the hope an issue will get better. Go to your GP. They have seen and heard it all before, and will understand. They can refer you to physio. In the meantime, Google some exercises you can do to improve your control and decrease urgency. Do go to your scan in June. A lot can change (and heal) in three weeks. If you're still feeling too sore for a transvaginal ultrasound, tell them. They might be able to get everything they need abdominally.

[xxcatcatcatxx]

@Angelina12

Aww thank you so much for your reply 🥰 I’m 10 weeks and forgot to say I had an episiotomy through the crying. Feeling a bit better this morning so shall try and go easy on myself. You’re right I probably should go, I guess the worst they can do is try💕

Thank you so so much xxx

[Dyra]

Oh wow! Our babies are about the same age! 😍

No wonder you're still sore after having an episiotomy. Glad you're having a better day today. Definitely take it easy on yourself, and just take it one day at a time. Pregnancy does such a number on our bodies (especially on the pelvic floor!). Nevermind birth injuries on top of it. If it helps any, with my vaginal birth (first baby), I remember having urgency and then control issues once I got going. Lasted a few months, but got better gradually by itself until things were back to normal. You're doing great, and I hope the rest of your road to recovery is short and easy going.