Hi ladies
Need some advice as I’m shit it now 😬
Having an elective c-section in 3 days.
It’s my first pregnancy and I suffer with severe vaginismus. From the beginning I always hoped I would be able to have an elective c-section as I was dreading giving birth vaginally as just the thought of it caused me too much stress and anxiety.
Met with a male consultant (not the consultant I normally see) at week 32 as I had a scan done and he said he thinks I should go for vaginal birth as there’s no medical indication for a c-section (baby isn’t breech, big, I don’t have diabetes or any other health issues etc.) and said I can have epidural when I’m 3cm open and won’t feel anything down there after the epidural and I can refuse internal exams by the midwifes. I said I do believe that midwifes need to do their job and check how much you have dilated etc. and it’s causing me stress to even think about vaginal birth so he said go home and think about it and we’ll meet again at week 36.
At week 36 I met with a female registrar/consultant who had no issues with referring me for a c-section and just went through the operation, risks etc.
Now it’s getting closer and closer and I’m basically shit it and afraid something’s bad is gonna happen during the operation or after as there’s not really a medical reason for my c-section. I’ve been reading about your uterus can rupture, infection in the wound, you can have your uterus removed after , your intestines and bladder can stop working, you can have a hemorrhage etc. I know chances are so small but can’t stop thinking about it so just wanted to ask for some advice for those who’ve had c-sections due to non-medical reasons and how it all went?
Thank you for reading 🙌🏻
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C-section for non-medical reasons but for vaginismus
K2012 · 22/05/2022 13:32
Kardelen · 31/01/2023 18:33
I’m actually still very confused. It sounds really appealing to go on a selected day and have the baby, where everything is all planned. But then I’m worried about the stigma attached to all this too, I know people are going to talk about me
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