Would you choose an Aug or Sep baby - planned c-section

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Having a planned section, it'll happen w/c 27th August. No exact date yet, but naturally it means the baby could either be an August baby and be the youngest in their year, or a September baby and be the oldest.

If you had the choice of dates what would you choose?!

Agreed.

I was the youngest by a country mile and had no issue keeping up academically

Sending me early was therefore considered a success. No problems till puberty struck and my classmates changed it seemed overnight after the summer holidays.

Everyone but me was suddenly interested only in bras and boys while I had no interest in simpering.

I still don't. Maybe it wasn't an age thing at all

August. But only because there is summer born legislation which means you can offset your child by a whole year for school so you can mqke that decision when they turn 4 if you feel readu to send them to school

But early years 15 or 30 hour funding starts the term after they turn 3. So if August you can claim funding from September. But if September you have to wait until January to claim your free nursery hours.

I am well qualified to speak here - I have one child who is Aug 30th (born on his due date) and one of my others is 8th September. DEFINITELY go for September imo. Academically Aug child has been fine - he's 19 now but maturity really comes with age and he would have benefitted from that during his school years. In addition when he started going out with his friends he was basically a year younger but you couldn't really stop him as he was the same school year.

Been there with a planned CS and my dd was 28/08. Horrible sending her to school ages literally just 4. Some are ready but some aren't and it did affect her as the years went on. So personally. Sept!

It is really shortsighted to choose august on the basis you get more free childcare. It's horrible being the youngest.

I've got one of each. Glad DS is September as he really needed the extra year before starting school. DD is August and is also fine- towards the top academically and is socially mature and always has been. A little shorter than most of the other girls but not the shortest. But, could have been a disaster if she'd been like DS. I didn't get a choice as normal delivery and early August but in your position I'd choose September.

I have an august baby, and I am august born added to that I have an October baby

Id go for a September baby if really really pushed to choose
but I dare say you'll not get much choice over this

September.

If the baby would would be born in August, you can always delay and I would be cautious on people saying about increased child care costs.

EYFS funding is up to 5 years old.

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lots of primary schools near us don’t accept deferred kids going into reception, the have to skip a year and go into year 1, which to me seems mad.

I would 100% defo go for sept if it is a choice, I am a teacher and see the difference, and in my son’s reception class every boy who he says gets told off daily is a summer born boy.

September

As the mum of an august baby and an October baby, I would want September. But I doubt you’ll get to choose, I didn’t with mine.

Adding to this, I really believe that the cut of date for the new school year should be 1st July and not the 1st September

By the time dc are in juniors there’s not much of a difference between winter and summer babies (academically and socially) as long as they’re well socialised in and outside of school. I’m a summer baby and was always top of the class alongside a September baby (almost an entire year older than me). However, my attention span wasn’t the best in EYFS and I remember being constantly told off for not being able to sit with my legs crossed :( I just physically couldn’t sit still unlike the “sensible” older dc.

I have a 1st Sept child and a 19th Aug child and If given a choose I'd definitely choose a September birthday. My August born really struggled to keep up for the first fe
w years of school, and although he's caught up now in year 4 I definitely think if he'd had that extra year he'd have found things so much easier.

I had this. I was due 5th September but needed an elective c section. Consultation told me 31st august and I said absolutely not! DS would be the very youngest starting school. Consultation was fab and told me to pick a day so i went with 3rd September.

Do what you feel is right. For me, I have an older DS with autism who was born in august. It was even harder for him when he started school as he was still so tiny and very behind developmentally so I didn't want to take any chances.

As it turns out, youngest DS is fine and would be starting school in September had he been born in the august but he is absolutely not ready for that so I'm so pleased he has another year to go

I mean it completely depends on the child. My child is a summer baby so will be the youngest in reception this year but MY GOD she is soooo ready!

Summer babies will save you a lot of money in nursery fees

I had a similar kind of decision to make regarding my youngest. It wasn't the sole reason for my birth choices, but influencing the school year was one consideration and I read up about it quite a lot. It's a long time ago now, so I can't remember all the details, but I came away convinced that September was the wiser choice.Statistically, as a group, children who are amongst the oldest in their year group do better than the youngest and the differences are demonstrable into the teens - especially in boys. Obviously population statistics describe populations and it is impossible to use them to predict outcomes for individuals. There are of course many high achieving Summer borns, and being born in the Autumn doesn't guarantee success. If I had had to give birth on 31st August I wouldn't have lost sleep over it, I would have just looked for ways to mitigate any problems that arose. Mostly we don't get a choice of course, but given that I did, I took the option where the probability of benefit was higher, whilst understanding that there's no guarantees.

September. Give them a whole extra year of play based learning before school. 😊

For boys definitely September, there are whole websites dedicated to summer born boys being behind. Statistics back it up too, sometimes they never catch up. Girls tend to mature faster, but its still a risk.

www.thetimes.co.uk/article/summer-born-pupils-unfairly-labelled-special-needs-rcdqcl27b

September. Always. Why would anyone choose a august baby, school wise?

Because they go to school sooner- not every child struggles because they are August born- my daughter is doing very well, ahead of many winter born and I paid near on the minimum amount of childcare- win for me!

September 100%

How old is she @OnlyFoolsnMothers?

my daughters in reception

September definitely.