Second delivery nerves

[Slummymum]

Hi there

I am so unbelievably scared at the prospect of giving birth our much wanted number two.. I am 36 weeks today and, having had two miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy with the twin of this baby (gal) I am carrying (leading to a big op during which no one expected her to survive) - I can't tell you how scared I am at having this baby!
Delivery number one of lovely boy H (now 3 years) was both great and grim in places - I was really scared by actually having the epidural which I had at 7 centimetres dilated but after having it I felt I could enjoy the whole process. I know its not rocket science but in truth it feels that way to me - I am really really scared.....

It's only natural to be scared! I was a bit like this as well with number 2 but it was a fantastic expereince, mainly because I knew what to expect and felt more in control. Try not to worry and remember what you get at the end of it!! Good Luck.....

Thank you Karen - Happy New Year

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Hiya, I found I was scared as I was approaching my 2nd labour too and although I had had a previous m/c it was before DS1, I had nothing like the things you have been through to deal with.

Having lost the twin of your baby it must be doubly difficult to be so close to giving birth to his/her sister. Your baby is obviously a fighter though and I'm sure your birth will go well.

After 2 m/cs last year and difficulty getting pg again I am now overdue for my 3rd and absolutely terrified of giving birth! As lennygirl said, when you have been through a lot it makes you more worried. I am sure you will be fine (as will I), MWs told me that many Mothers get concerned in the last weeks.

I also think that it is scary as we know what is coming although DS2's birth was much easier than DS1's and it was also quicker.

I am really thankful to you for taking the time to express such great thoughts for me. I have never posted a notice before and am really surprised by how much your words and points are touching me. God this is all so big but it makes it all so much more dealable to have my worries understood. Thanks everso much for giving me your precious time and valuable points.

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I was the same, Skummymummy, with DS1 i had no fears and it was a terrible birth and pregnancy, but with DS2 i had nightly panick attacks that left me quivering in a heap on the floor sobbing in the middle of the night.

Im not sure how to overcome it but DS2 was the easiest birt ever disn't need pain relief i was 8cm before i even realised i was in labour!

Good Luck x

My first delivery was a bit of a nightmare, 42 hour labour, epidural, induced.

i worked myself into a frenzy of anxiety while pregnant with ds2, to be presented with a 4.5 hour labour, and gas and air. And I found I had the strength, this time round, to say "Now, you can take these straps off me unless you can think of a reason why I need more monitoring than anyone else here who isn't wearing them" AND because I obviously had 'that second timer look', she took them off without a work

In a word, it was much better than I had even hoped.

I certainly will let you know. Thanks again and have a very Happy New Year.

wow

sorry for your loss slummy - how amazing though to keep your dd after an ep. i had an ep back in 2003 and know how traumatic it can be

remember, however the birth turns out, it will be relatively short, then you will have your baby. keep focussed on the goal of seeing your daughter

good luck x

ps try to avoid jan 1st - it's a shocker of a birthday i can tell you

Hi there - this is Slummymum...proud mum of two! Baby Martha was born on the 18th January - fast and furious delivery and am utterly delighted its all over and never have to do it again! I had no drugs (not nec by choice but hey you only live once!) and she arrived on the express train at 3.58pm healthy, happy and well. Thank you all for your wonderful words and understanding. They meant the world to me. Thanks again (wink)

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