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C section dissapointment

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shas19 · 15/01/2022 23:00

3rd baby, 3rd c section. I came in last night with reduced movements and was to go ahead with planned induction today for dilaplan or cooks balloon. Now today the treatment has been horrible, my consultant has back tracked what we decided and refused induction and will only attempt ARM which isn't possible atm. The midwife on call asked him to come and explain as id been here for 20hrs after being told a bed was ready etc and he refused to even come and speak to me and said he won't be doing anything even though I have reduced movement. He sent another Dr who gave me a sweep and said if by tomorrow morning I'm not open enough for them to break my waters then it will be a semi elective/emc. I'm so upset, I feel like I've been robbed. Consultant was very supportive throughout my pregnancy for IOL with mechanical devices and vbac but the treatment today has been so poor and feel like my body has let me down 3 times now. Now I won't sleep tonight as I know what's coming and I'm so frightened

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AnneLovesGilbert · 15/01/2022 23:03

Oh love Flowers

Big hand hold. No advice but sending you strength and calm.

Lifeisnteasy · 15/01/2022 23:05

Sorry to hear you’re disappointed. Is there a particular reason why you wanted a vbac after 2 csections? 💐

Closebrackets · 15/01/2022 23:06

Oh OP, I don't want to sound like I'm minimising how you feel as I know it's heartbreaking, disappointing and scary, but you have done this twice before, you got this! Also there's hope that they might be able to break your waters in the morning. Do you have any headphones with you, can you listen to something relaxing?

Barbarantia · 15/01/2022 23:13

I know that feeling of thinking your body let you down. Have your baby first. Then let your body heal. Then revisit it with a fresh head. Then you'll be ready to see that the expectations may have been unrealistically set. Your body is honestly doing its absolute best!
It's a bit shabby of the consultant not to explain a change of treatment in person especially if you were already consultant led with known possible complications.

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shas19 · 15/01/2022 23:14

@Closebrackets

Oh OP, I don't want to sound like I'm minimising how you feel as I know it's heartbreaking, disappointing and scary, but you have done this twice before, you got this! Also there's hope that they might be able to break your waters in the morning. Do you have any headphones with you, can you listen to something relaxing?
@closebrackets I keep telling myself you've done it twice what's 1 more but I feel so sad. I really thought this time I'd get my natural birth. I hope they can but I doubt it. Dr said she could get a finger in and gave a good sweep but don't think I'll be ready for breaking my waters.
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shas19 · 15/01/2022 23:18

@Lifeisnteasy

Sorry to hear you’re disappointed. Is there a particular reason why you wanted a vbac after 2 csections? 💐
@lifeisnteasy this is my last baby either for good or for a very long time so I just wanted to be able to experience a natural birth. I've always been last to hold my babies and it makes me so sad, also the thought of having no control and and knowing whats happening to me makes me feel very on edge. It's just so frustrating being told yes go for it..you're supported, then to no can't do that.
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shas19 · 15/01/2022 23:21

@Barbarantia

I know that feeling of thinking your body let you down. Have your baby first. Then let your body heal. Then revisit it with a fresh head. Then you'll be ready to see that the expectations may have been unrealistically set. Your body is honestly doing its absolute best! It's a bit shabby of the consultant not to explain a change of treatment in person especially if you were already consultant led with known possible complications.
@barbarantia I'm so annoyed with him. The midwife I had today was furious, she tried everything but he wouldn't budge and just said no I won't be coming up to speak to her and won't be doing anything. She said if I wanted to complain she would support me in going forward with it. I know once she's born I won't care how she got here but right now I'm so sad
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sjxoxo · 15/01/2022 23:21

Please don’t feel your body has let you down. I am on the other end of the spectrum; had my first baby a week ago by emergency section after a 48hr labour. I’d never attempt a vaginal delivery again! The c sec was a good experience; quick, efficient, and offered certainty vs. potential further complications. Why are you set on a vbac after 2 c secs… if you can’t have the route that you want please focus on your objectives regardless- to leave with a healthy baby. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter how you get there- so please don’t be hard on yourself. You shouldn’t have been treated as you have by the consultant; sounds very unprofessional - can you ask for a second opinion? It might shed light on their reasoning if nothing else. Wishing you a great positive birth 💐xo

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shas19 · 16/01/2022 18:35

She's here! Arrived at 13:28 by EMC. Dr set off back to back contractions after examining me this morning and she was also back to back so I had back labour. But she's fine all be it a little small

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Barbarantia · 16/01/2022 23:56

Bless. Congratulations!

wishing3 · 16/01/2022 23:58

We’ll done you! Congratulations. Xxx

blyn · 17/01/2022 00:00

Well done, that is marvellous news.
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