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So tell me, this ´transition´ thing..

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Maveta · 17/12/2007 17:31

..would that have been the point at which I hurled myself at my dh, grabbed his shirt collar, pulled his face to within inches of my own and told him in no uncertain terms that I could not possibly do this ("yes you can darling", "NO. I. CAN´T"), and that he´d better get someone to give me an epidural that worked or go ahead with the c-section they´d been threatening...

Just been wondering..

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camillathechicken · 17/12/2007 17:34

yes, that sounds like it

some women, i was not one of them, sleep through it !!!!!!!

i said i would not do it anymore, it had to stop, i insisted it stop and i would be going .....

my friend ripped the collar off her DHs shirt!

ShowOfHands · 17/12/2007 17:35

Dunno, during transition my contractions stopped, I became extremely calm and philosophical and had a conversation with the MW about Maori culture (don't know why).

It was 6 hours later after a lot of assisted pushing and no baby that I did the bit you refer to!

funnypeCOOLYULEiar · 17/12/2007 17:40

Also the point where the midwife (not realising how quickly I had dilated) decided to pop out & do a bit of paperwork. Cue me screaming 'if you go I will DIE. Don't go, I will DIE. I am HAVING a BABY'

With dd, didn't have it - the mw asked if I wanted to push, and I said 'yes, but I haven't had the shit bit yet, so that can't be right'..

ShowOfHands · 17/12/2007 17:43

I remember telling the MW I was about to die near the very end and she soothingly cooed 'no dear, you're absolutely fine' and I shouted 'WHAT DO YOU KNOW?' at her. I think I also called the consultant who perfomed the eventual em cs a 'rude, horrid man' to his face. I can't blame transition either.

LadyOfTheHollyAndTheIvy · 17/12/2007 17:45

with ds1 transition was all serene and i sat in the water telling everyone who would listen that i could do this and everything would be fine, the pain is positive pain.

with ds2 i must have looked like a bedraggled sea-hag crying out to dh that i was going to die and that i loved him. i also swore some whereas with ds1 i didn't.

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Maveta · 17/12/2007 17:48

hahaha, am enjoying these stories. Find it quite funny that after all the reading up on transition prior to childbirth, it actually took a fair few months afterwards for me to realise that stage dh and I had been laughing about was probably it. His poor face! One minute he´s still doing the mopping the brow (how IRRITATING) and ´you can do it, I´m so proud of you´, the next he´s being half strangled by this mad woman with starey eyes and wild hair who bears only a passing resemblance to his wife..

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3madboys · 17/12/2007 17:48

maveta that sounds like me lol, when i had ds3 i grabbed hold of dp's face, really tightly round his jaw, told him this was a REALLY bad idea and that i wanted a fucking epidural and now or else i would go home (wtf was i thinking?) literally a min later i needed to push, three pushes and ds3 was out

LadyOfTheHollyAndTheIvy · 17/12/2007 17:52

I also got the classic:

MW: Push dear!

So I gave her the classic:

I AM FUCKING PUSHING!!!

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Maveta · 17/12/2007 17:55

You know I can´t really remember conversation between the staff... I am in Spain and while I´m fluent in Spanish, and speak Spanish to my dh, my whole entire labour I spoke english, and minimal at that (must be have aware that no one knew what on earth I was saying). In fact I´m pretty sure they thought I didn´t speak Spanish at all... isn´t that weird?!

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Sabire · 17/12/2007 22:06

Good grief - I didn't get aggressive during transition, just really whingy and pathetic.

I remember vomiting weakly during my second birth (a homebirth) in between whimpering 'help me!' 'it hurts! it hurts! you have no idea how painful this is' and 'I WISH I'd had an epidural'.

I was so lame.

But within 10 minutes of giving birth (to a 10lb 12oz baby) I was feeling like a lioness!

NowTheHollyBearsABero · 17/12/2007 22:10

My (speedy and brutal) transition wth ds2:

'I can't do this!'

'Yes I can, ignore me!'

'I want an epidural!'

'I want my mum!' (double , in my case)

'No, scrap all that, it'll be fine, I can do it!'

'AAAAAAAARRRGH!'

repeat ad infinitum.

MerryPIFFLEmas · 17/12/2007 22:13

I went through transition alone as was hospital transfer from homebirth and the midwife thought my labour had stopped - DP was on his way up after getting in laws over to watch ds1 and dd...
I knew ds2 was on his way out, midwife disagreed- after all I've only had 2 kids before (To her nil)

So went through it alone and felt so brave and forceful, haule dher ass back in there and said I NEED TO FUCKING PUSH
she tittered and said oh not yet, not possible
Then dP came in just as head was emerging... he looked at midwife and said
Should you be not catching that child.
she was stunned but recovered enough to stab me with the jab for the placenta

Twinklemegan · 17/12/2007 22:26

I didn't notice transition as it was no different from what had gone before. I only knew I was in the second stage when the midwife noticed me involuntarily pushing in the pool (I hadn't realised). I then had to get out of the pool, I can't remember why now, and it all went tits up. Was still pushing nearly 4 hours later .

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sparklygothkat · 17/12/2007 22:43

oh was that when I was screaming that 'I can't do this, it hurts too much' ?? even though I had been begging them to let me push a few minutes before hand... oh and the 'get these fucking monitors off me' Of course I wasn't allowed to be monitor-free with a premature labour, but hey, they were annoying me!!

JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 17/12/2007 23:09

Ooh it was at transition I realised I was going to die I couldn't speak, I was just sucking on the gas and air like my life depended on it, because I firmly believed it did...

OhGiveUsAPruniPudding · 17/12/2007 23:09

I don't remember transition
I was sort of expecting it but it didn't happen

edam · 17/12/2007 23:18

I'm not sure I remember it but several people have told me I was yelling 'fuck' at the top of my voice. So that was probably transition, then.

A friend of mine got off the bed and tried to walk away, saying 'I've changed my mind, I'm going home'.

ItCameUponAMidnightClara · 18/12/2007 16:47

I don't really remember much about transition. I was in a pool, and spent a lot of the time being very quiet with my eyes closed. A lot of it is a blur really.

I don't remember deciding that I wanted to push either. Looking back is like watching a film, as if it all happened to someone else. Is that weird?

Kathyate6mincepies · 18/12/2007 16:58

I had a vague sense that I wasn't really in the mood for having a baby right then. Looking back that must have been transition. I wish I had known as then I would have jumped in the car and yelled 'Drive!' instead of casually remarking 'maybe we ought to think about going to hospital fairly soon'.

holidaywonk · 18/12/2007 17:03

LOL at Kathy

I don't think I transited (?) either time. One minute I wasn't pushing, the next I was.

sorkycake · 18/12/2007 17:05

I went to sleep with all 3 of mine during transition, BUT when I woke with the first I was hallucinating and didn't know where I was, when Dh and the midwife asked my if I was okay I vomitted and remember telling them i didn't know who they were and I wanted to go home, I vaguely remember being quite surprised to be pregnant as well!! It lasted for about ten seconds or so but was rather disconcerting for all I would imagine. With my 2nd I fell asleep leaning on the pool side I felt so calm and peaceful, went to sleep and woke up because my face fell in the water. My 3rd was also quite nice and peaceful for about 30 seconds then all hell felt like it was breaking loose as he shot out!

TheIceQueen · 18/12/2007 17:05

oh would that have been when I shouted at the top of my voice (time beautifully for when someone opened the door to go out of the room)

"I'M GOING TO GET PILES"

TwinklyfLightAttendant · 18/12/2007 17:07

First time I had an epi top up just before, and went to sleep, woken by monitor beeping and mum rushing off to get someone as heartbeat had dropped but oh the bliss of that sleep!

Second time I was convinced I needed to poo, sent everyone away, my mum came to the door downstairs and I had another contraction, screamed really loudly, couldn't help it...then the MW came up and led me into the bedroom, while ringing for backup. I was also retching, nothing there to come up, it was Ok as it just felt like my stomach was being shoved upwards with every contraction, that was all. Didn't actually feel sick, just was iyswim.

The next bit was the pushing, about half an hour of it.

minspugs · 18/12/2007 19:21

ah yes transition im a panicer, i start thinking i cant possibly do it and demand drugs. they gave in to me with dd2 and gave me pethidine. out she came 15 mins later. but in the space of about 5 mins i went from singing (under pressure - due to pressure in back )and really enjoying the g&a to a wreck. i now tell every mw i meet not to give me drugs in transition as im just panicing and dont really want them . think i asked for an epi as well.

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