I’m currently 25wks with DC2 after a traumatic 36 hour labour and EMCS with DS four years ago. With DS I got to 9cm but he was partially back to back, had passed full meconium and had decelerations and borderline acidemia, but even so I had to fight tooth and nail for a c-section as I was under lots of pressure from the consultant to have another go at the Synotocin drip with potential for instruments. I knew DS and I were both at risk so put my foot down and insisted on c-section - the midwife later told me “that was the right decision”.
Long post, sorry. So my question is - has anyone been allowed by their consultant to try for VBAC on the basis that you got to say at what point you wanted to stop and opt for a c-section?
My consultant has said they would ‘set a low bar’ for c-section and I would love a VBAC but I need to feel in control this time as I can’t face feeling that I’m having to fight for baby’s safety and my own again. I also really want to avoid EMCS or instrumental delivery as I need a peaceful birth this time. I feel that having got to 9cm I’d like to have a go at VBAC but leaning towards ELCS as it seems the safer option. We’re also in the middle of nowhere 1.5 hours from the hospital so home birth/local birthing centre is not an option 
Thanks all 