Is it normal to feel like this after birth

[FlamingLama]

Had my ds a week ago, hormones/emotions have been a bit wobbly the last few days but my midwife warned me that was to be expected.
Emotionally I don't know how to feel, like I'm elated with my little boy, he is perfect and the contentment I feel when we are nestled up together is just the best feeling in the world but outside of that I feel a bit numb. I don't really feel anything. I am super tired from night feeds and my body is still very much healing from birth. I just don't know how to feel, I don't know if I'm expecting too much of myself so soon after birth. I don't really want to do anything. I'd quite happily stay in bed all day with my baby and shut the rest of the world out.
I need to pop out and buy a few things but I don't want to.
I had really bad and with my daughter 10 years ago which resulted in agoraphobia so I'm trying to be mindful of slipping back into that.
I have a midwife appointment at the end of the week so I will mention it to her then. I just don't want to sound stupid.

It's all completely normal. I got out quite quickly this time - we went for a Carvery at about 10 days - and everyone I spoke to asked how on Earth I was up and out so soon.

Don't push yourself too much. Take your time. Ask someone to come with you when you do go out if you need it.

You've been through a lot. Be kind to yourself.

Hi @FlamingLama

Congratulations on your new baby!

No, you won’t sound stupid, and yes, this is normal. Maybe you’re putting expectations on yourself to feel a particular way? Something really helpful friends told me before I gave birth (recently) was to not expect to feel any immediate rush of emotion for my child and that that could take a while, especially with hormones up and down, and lack of sleep.

I understand how you feel and others will too. Not abnormal at all.

I hope you feel better soon and enjoy your time with your new baby

It does sound normal. Congratulations on your baby. Don't be too hard on yourself xx

With each of mine I've felt weird afterwards in different and totally unexpected ways. At the time it worried me but it did settle down eventually.

With your history I think you should flag up to your MW that you are feeling a bit out of sorts and strange and see if she has any suggestions. Don't be afraid to talk to friends and family and try to lean on others.

How are you feeling?

@FlamingLama I’d say get through the second week then you will start to feel better hopefully. I found it all a bit ‘much’ in the second week. I was trying to deal with things coming from all angles. I felt like I was on a cycle of just non-stop changing his nappy and feeding him. While having to stay on top of when people were visiting and trying to remember what lovely gifts people had given us. The door would go multiple times a day with more people we barely even know handing in a present for him. It was so nice but I found it all quite stressful. I’m not someone who goes about in no makeup etc usually so the idea of being in pyjamas when someone showed up unannounced filled me with dread so I was getting up every morning and getting dressed when I really wish I’d just not answered the door and stayed in my PJs! By about the fourth week I felt like I was getting into a routine with it all and things definitely started to get easier. By the fifth week he smiled and just melted my heart 🥺 8 weeks in now and just loving it! There are still moments where I feel like I’m struggling or get emotional so easy at the tiniest argument with DH but it definitely does get easier, hang in there!

It's so normal
I was very up and down the first 3 weeks after mine .
Could cry at anything. Felt like I'd ruined my life etc.
It's the hormones and the tiredness x

Baby blues kicks in around day 4 for a few days. Then you have the reality factor set in.
This all sounds very normal

100% normal.