So I am 20 weeks and having had a consultant appt they have said they will support me having a CS if I want it. The main reasons are that i have had vulvadynia (pain in the vagina) caused by my hypermobility meaning that my pelvis was misaligned in the past which took 18 months of physio and daily meds to sort out. I previously screamed in pain during sex and whilst i am better 95% of the time now I still have a flare up now and then.
They said it could go either way - the hypermobility could make the labour easier as i am more flexible and could even improve the vulvodynia as it stretches the muscles or it could cause more complications with increased risk of tearing and cause my pelvis to misalign again and I would need physio again.
Obv C-section comes with its own risk and a much longer recovery period. I've had multiple surgeries in the past though so i know i am ok with aenethisia and recover generally in line with normal expectations.
I am going privately so will be able to have my own room and DH with me the whole time (inc overnight) in the hospital so recovery time in hospital not such an issue although obv no hospital is as nice as being home.
I know i don't have to make the decision yet but it's leaving me stressed.