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Induction contractions every 4 mins help! Won't let partner in

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halfwaythrough2 · 15/07/2021 07:06

Going out of my mind right now. I've been over contracting due to the pessery it's been 48 hours now. I'm shattered haven't slept properly because they are so short staffed they started my induction at 1.30am on Tuesday.

I am in unbelievable pain now and I'm only 2cm dilated they won't let
My partner on the ward until 10am unless
My waters break I honestly feel like I'm going to break from an aniexty attack it's not helping my labor ag all I don't know what to do I need my fella here there's not even a midwife around just two other poor people trying to sleep! Can I demand to speak to someone I'm literally mooing the house down I don't want to be alone

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Dany165 · 15/07/2021 07:07

That sounds horrific Flowers Hopefully someone else will be along shortly but didn't want to read and run.

Yamaya · 15/07/2021 07:08

Next time a midwife appears demand stronger pain relief. What do you have at the moment?

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halfwaythrough2 · 15/07/2021 07:11

I'm on dehydracodene and I've had so many anti sickness injections but keep throwing up all on myself and I'm
Sure it's coz I'm having a panic attack.
They even admitted to me that pain relief won't do anything at this stage only epidural would and their can't give me one yet. Getting so sad I really need my fella here

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halfwaythrough2 · 15/07/2021 07:11

All the hypno birthing in the world can't make you ready for doing this alone

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halfwaythrough2 · 15/07/2021 07:12

Thank you for replying as well your the only people I have to speak to currently which is kind of crazy!

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LJC1234 · 15/07/2021 07:18

Oh OP I'm sorry . Have they given you gas and air? (Sorry if I missed that bit)

I'm giving you a really strong hand hold . 10am will be here before you know it. I was induced last year and husband wasnt allowed till I was in active labour. Not being with him was horrid

I know nothing can distract you from the pain but if you have an iPad I recommend really rubbish reality TV it helped me

Furble · 15/07/2021 07:18

Take it one contraction at a time. Vocalising helps. I found counting to be very helpful. Count slowly to ten and then down again by which time the contraction should be nearly over the worst. You probably need some gas by now. Ring the buzzer. Tell them you’re going to insist on being discharged against medical advice unless you can have access to some gas and air and your partner and they need to start lining up the epidural and giving you an ETA. You are exhausted and need rest. It’s downright cruel what they’re doing to women in labour during Covid. Try and stay in control and take it a breath at a time, feeling out of control won’t serve you. You are strong, you can do this. Wish I could sit with you and hold your hand xx

LJC1234 · 15/07/2021 07:20

@halfwaythrough2

Thank you for replying as well your the only people I have to speak to currently which is kind of crazy!
I know the loneliness of the maternity wards . I'm so sorry but I promise you will forget this but in a few days .
Yamaya · 15/07/2021 07:21

Is it because of covid he isn't allowed in or will he be allowed in later? At what stage will he be allowed in. Sorry I don't know much about hospital rules at the moment. Try not to panic though as that will not help you dilate. Can you have gas and air as well as what you have at the moment? Can you put headphones in and listen to some music or a podcast? Maybe move around your bed a bit or ask for a birthing ball? Maybe not the best if you are feeling sick though. Sorry you are having such a rough time.

notanotherguitar · 15/07/2021 07:23

Big massive handhold from me here OP, I am praying 10am flies round and they let him in

Yamaya · 15/07/2021 07:24

Oh sorry I missed the bit about your partner being allowed in at 10am xx

Soubriquet · 15/07/2021 07:26

Ask for a birthing ball and get bouncing. It might help speed the contractions up and aid dilation which will help your partner to come in.

Request gas and air even if they say it won’t help. It will distract you from the pain

Vallmo47 · 15/07/2021 07:29

What a horrendous situation OP, but try your hardest to put that aside for now. Are you allowed to move at all, that really helps speed up labour. Praying 10am comes fast for you and good luck with active labour … sometimes it can drag on for ages and then suddenly you’re nearly there! 💗

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 15/07/2021 07:31

Where is your partner? If he is outside, go outside to him, they can’t stop you from leaving.

4PawsGood · 15/07/2021 07:33

Can they not give you pethidine?

I agree, you go to him.

dancingbroccoli · 15/07/2021 07:33

Request a birthing ball and gas and air. Press your button, don't be afraid to say what you need. I was induced and was alone for hours during the beginning of labour so I really sympathise. I had horrible anxiety and panic attacks and the gas and air really helped control my breathing which in turn made the contractions more bearable. Stay strong OP, you can do this! 💪🏻

sarah13xx · 15/07/2021 13:05

Hope you’re getting somewhere. Would you consider a c-section if it’s not progressing? I think they’d have to let him in for that

Flittingaboutagain · 15/07/2021 13:08

I'm so sorry OP. I actually told them I was going home if they didn't let my partner in as the guidance had been updated even on their own website to say one birthing partner could be present throughout all stages of labour. In the end a doctor agreed he could come in but it caused so much distress that didn't help my labour at all.

fairgame84 · 15/07/2021 13:09

I had the same experience 16 years ago. I was induced and my partner had to go home once visiting ended because I was in a bay so he wasn't allowed to stay overnight. I ended up getting a couple of hours sleep after a diamorphine injection and he was allowed back in at 8am.

notanotherguitar · 15/07/2021 16:36

Hoping things have very much moved along OP, and that you’ve had DP there for hours now!

EarlGreywithLemon · 16/07/2021 15:45

Im so sorry, I’m hoping you’re holding your lovely baby right now OP! I also had a pessary induction and I remember it well. Codeine and even pethidine didn't help at all. And about the epidural - I was told on antenatal that they couldn’t give me an epidural until they can break my waters. Not true! I was screaming the place down like you and was finally moved to the labour ward - just about 1cm, waters not broken. And lo and behold the epidural was perfectly possible!! I had it, THEN they broke my waters, and then I got up to 10cm and pushing within 4 hours. I was so cross with the midwife on ante natal for fobbing me off!!

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halfwaythrough2 · 17/07/2021 22:21

Thank you all lovely ladies!
I did manage to read a few but then contractions got so bad I was crying my eyes out and eventually they let my partner in! 6 hours later my baby girl was born! Went ok thanks to my lovely older mid wife who actually really cared about me and not just getting the baby out!
They were severely understaffed it's terrible what the government have done to our nhs system, so grateful for them!

Xxx

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MonsterChopz · 17/07/2021 22:42

Congratulations on your baby girl! Sorry you had a bad time of it Flowers

Smeds · 17/07/2021 22:56

Congratulations OP. Sorry you had such a rough time. Similar happened to me with my DC six years ago. I was also mooing like a cow whilst 2 other women were trying to sleep on the other side of the curtain 😬 I got to 8cm with paracetamol and a birthing ball. Nothing else on offer as I was only on the antenatal ward. It was one of their busiest days of the year so the midwives told me afterwards.

Enjoy your newborn cuddles!

sarah13xx · 17/07/2021 23:09

@halfwaythrough2 congratulations, lovely happy ending ☺️💕