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Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

Complicated c-section or termination

3 replies

chickchick2910 · 20/06/2021 11:31

Hi all,

Am unexpectedly 7 week pregnant. Children are 8 and 6. Last c-section it took an hour to get son out due to extensive scar tissue from first section.

When son was 8 weeks old I developed ovarian torsion from a massive cyst they had to leave in during section due to already having lost 1700ml of blood. So have another incision from naval down, although they obviously didn't go into my womb that time.

Was advised that if I had further children (never on cards) that a senior consultant would have to be present and would have it at 38 weeks so wasn't an emergency.

Husband really doesn't want the baby mainly due to health scares and losing me. We nearly lost him last year due to endocarditis and a brain bleed so I do understand- and he is 54.

I managed to see a senior consultant last week and she scanned me and could see the scar tissue and advised they would do an MRI on me to see adhesions if I continued, later on.

My husband is begging me not to go through with having baby but I am so torn between my maternal instincts/hormones.

I don't want to regret having an abortion but I don't want to ruin our lives now and his reaction too if I don't go through with abortion- he's so scared.

I am booked in for a termination on Thursday (tablets, then surgical procedure on Saturday- once I've had that there is no going back).

I feel I will be selfless in having an abortion for my family but am I just doing it for me if I keep it- I know my children will be lovely siblings as they love babies.

I wanted to ask whether anyone else has had similar with extensive scar tissue, good and bad stories and also whether similar situation with husband.

Thanks so much xx

OP posts:
BunnyRuddington · 21/06/2021 18:52

I don't have any experience but just wanted to offer a hand hold through all of this.

Hopefully someone will be along soon Thanks

goneroguetoday · 21/06/2021 21:03

Is vbac of the question?

butterry · 21/06/2021 21:10

I can understand your husband being concerned with his health complications as well and you have 2 children already. If course it’s very personal but I think your husband and children need you far more than another child in the family and it sounds like there is a risk of losing you.

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