Giving birth alone.

[Mummaofboys93]

There is a very high chance that I shall have to give birth alone due to childcare.

To say I am upset about it is an understatement, I know many women have had to do it alone so I am not complaining but I am just abit sad about it all. This is my DP first child, so I am sad for him that he is most likely going to miss the birth of his DC & with my last DC I haemorrhaged just after having him which has now made me worry it could happen again. I am also high risk & probably won't be allowed home for the first 2/3 days, longer if I become unwell after the birth. So am feeling a bit down about it all atm.

Would like to hear stories of any women who have had their babies alone.

I had my second and third alone, and haemorrhaged with them both. It wasn't too bad I just focused on the birth and messaged regular updates.
Only downside in the 3rd one was that the midwife wasnt around much and I was on the monitor so when I needed a drink or something from my bag I couldn't get anything. So just make sure everything is within reach. It really isn't that bad, for the birth the midwives are really supportive.
I fully believe that if I had been struggling with the pain at all and the delivery suite hadn't been as busy as it was that the midwife would have been there the whole time. But I cope with pain well and was very quiet so clearly low on the priority list. I did haemorrhage after both of my solo births and again the staff were amazing and calming, and supportive and explained what was happening.
Good Luck. Take a long phone charger and stay as calm as possible xx

I had my second DS alone. We’d had issues with both families and I had a one year old DS1 who my DH was standing outside the delivery room with trying to figure out what to do. The midwife was totally unprepared as I’d only just arrived (left it late deliberately due to childcare issues) and was around 4cm dilated (I think). She told me I needed to push and I knew that I needed to get the baby out quickly! Honestly - DS2 was out by the time my DH came in flustered. I showed him the baby and told him to go home and take DS1 back to bed. Instinct kicked in and I got through it. Didn’t think too much about it.
Try not to worry. Your DH will have all the time to bond with your baby. It’s sad that he is missing the birth but it shouldn’t affect their relationship at all! You’d be amazed at the strength your able to garner when needed! Try and have a word with the midwives and let them know the situation. Hope it goes well for you x

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I'm so glad you posted this because I'm in the same position thanks to covid restrictions (not living in the UK, they still don't let partners in here). It's my third birth, DH was there for the last two. This time he won't be let into the delivery room and I'm struggling with how I'm going to do this alone. Unless I pay for a private birth, because by some magic of logic dads are allowed into private hospitals for the birth - does being rich make you immune to covid? WHo knows.

DH only barely made it into the room for DS2 the labour was so far, I was actively trying to not push because I felt the baby shooting out of me and held on until they got him for me. Good luck, it's a miserable situation and I wish none of us had to do this alone.