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Scared..2nd c section and fatter !

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Babyjune21 · 28/02/2021 06:30

Just as plain as the heading says !! I want to be excited but I’m scared ! A bit of back round I got a planned c section 2019 because of mental health concerns ( I had told high risk doctors I was going to end my life when baby arrived I was in very dark place after loss of my mother at 32 weeks pregnant ) so they decided a planned c section would be best to control the environment and after care aka I would have to stay in longer and teams of therapist were at hand day or night when needed anyway it was a happy ending and with on going mental health support and self care I am very stable now and in a much better place I am pregnant again and have a great team of high risk doctors and mental health midwives I’m coping very well and mental health hasn’t been an issue but of course because of previous section I have opt for another the only thing is I’m much heavier ! No one has said it will be an issue when having a c section but I’m not stupid I know it brings it’s own chance of issues .. the thing is I’m so scared of dying as sad as it sounds the first time round I was laying on the table not caring if a bled out in fact I though it would be an easy way out of my pain ... I know that may be hard to understand but this time round I have my son and new born daughter to think about I just don’t want to die .... and I don’t really know how to explain this to my team with out them thinking I’m losing it again ! Has any one had a section while being on the much bigger side and all has been ok ??

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THNG5 · 28/02/2021 06:37

I've had 3 sections. The first, I was a size 16, the last a size 20. No problems whatsoever. Out of hospital quickly and and an easy recovery with all.

Babyjune21 · 28/02/2021 06:52

@THNG5 I can’t tell you how much better this made me feel maybe because I’m the very same was a 16 and now a 20 ! So thanks very much !

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inchplant · 04/03/2021 23:30

just be careful of your incision, it’s more likely to get infected if you’re of a high BMI. Keep clean and dry and ask partner to check it if you can’t see it yourself

Babyjune21 · 05/03/2021 06:38

@inchplant thanks for the reply , that’s one of my worries when I had my son it was the middle of winter so wasn’t worried about sweating as much but baby’s due in June and I’m worried if I sweat it will keep scare wet , do you know anyways to keep it dry maybe like a face cloth or will that make things worse x

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THNG5 · 05/03/2021 11:28

My last baby was born in the hottest week in August last year. I found folding a maternity pad (not period!) lengthways and putting on scar stopped any rubbing/sweating.

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