Weepy 11 days post birth.. is this normal?

[MCR2021]

I had a couple of days of what I assumed were ‘baby blues’.. day 3 and 5 if I remember correctly...
I feel so down this evening.. 11 days postpartum.
Don’t get me wrong I love my new little girl so so much. I love being her mummy.
But I just feel like I am suddenly having a little freak out... ‘mourning’ my old life and freedom. I also miss my husband so so much (we have spent every second of the last 11 days together) but we have been so wrapped up with LO it’s just like we are coexisting.
I feel disappointed with myself even writing this. Do these feelings get better?

Yes, yes,yes. Your hormones crash at day 10. This too shall pass.

Yes, I seemed ok on day 3, 4 or 5, think I was running on adrenaline. By day 11 I was tearful and tired.
I remember with my second being tearful around the same time for a couple of days and I couldn’t work out what was wrong and then remembered the first time.

@MCR2021 Very normal OP! At least, it was for me anyway ❤️ I promise it gets better 😊
I spend a few days stuck somewhere in between “I can’t believe it’s possible to love something as much as I love this little boy” and “oh gosh what have we done?!” 😳😅🤣
We’re now 12 weeks in. I still miss DH and “our time” but we’ll get some time for us back once DS is a bit more settled ❤️

Yes. I remember having the same feelings. I knew I loved DD but has this horrible overwhelming feeling of what I can only describe as doom. It's all the hormone changes but it's scary when it happens. Hope you feel better soon

Oh god yes. The uncontrollable weeping. I felt despair. I clearly remember crying on the kitchen floor saying that I'd ruined my life. It does get better. But be kind to yourself and don't expect too much too soon, it's a big change. I wish someone had told me this - I thought I'd be pushing a cute newborn baby round the shops for hours and meeting friends for coffee and nice lunches.

@Candleabra

Oh god yes. The uncontrollable weeping. I felt despair. I clearly remember crying on the kitchen floor saying that I'd ruined my life. It does get better. But be kind to yourself and don't expect too much too soon, it's a big change. I wish someone had told me this - I thought I'd be pushing a cute newborn baby round the shops for hours and meeting friends for coffee and nice lunches.

This 🙌🏻 It doesn’t matter how hard people tell you it is...you never imagine it to be THAT hard 🙈 shopping, coffee and lunches seems laughable now doesn’t it?! 🙈

I remember holding DD on around day 7 and bursting into tears and DH worrying something was awfully wrong. When I said "I just love her sooooooooo much" through my sobs, he just slowly backed out the room whilst maintaining eye contact

The best was singing random songs to her when she was about two weeks old. Bat Out of Hell (not known for its beautiful lyrics with "...saw a young boy down in the gutter, he was starting to foam in the heat" being one of them) and I got to "baby you're the only thing in this whole world that's pure and good and right" and I just couldn't carry on. I was absolutely bawling!

I'm so glad that stage didn't last long! I was dehydrated for weeks!

I really feel for you, i can definitely empathise with how you feel. I honestly couldn't stop crying the first few weeks after I had my little boy. My husband was really worried about me but I knew deep down my main feeling was unbelievable happiness so I never felt I was suffering from PND. I just couldn't control my emotions at all. I cried at absolutely anything & everything. I mourned my old life & the ability to do what I wanted to, like sleep mainly!

Having a baby is a huge life changing event so please don't be too hard on yourself. Equally if you feel like it's out of control or you would benefit from talking to someone please please ask for some help.

I was an absolute emotional wreck at around 11 days postpartum. Literally anything would make me cry, especially DH singing to baby DD in his language.

Yes, normal. Life changes dramatically & it’s a shock to the system. Don’t feel guilty for how you feel

Absolutely normal.

I'm six weeks today since Dd was born and have cried twice this morning. Dh just asked me why and I said because I have a family. Just such an amount of emotion.