How long did you wait to have sex after birth?

[Diglett567]

I had DD 5 weeks ago and can't wait to have sex with my husband again. We didn't really do it through pregnancy because we both seemed to loose our sex drives. We tried a few days ago but I'm still quite sore, I had a forceps delivery with an episiotomy and a small tear.
How long did it take everyone to heal up enough to have sex?

You can do stuff that doesn't involve penetration.

Just to mention it :)

About three months, both times.

About 12 weeks and it was and still is complete agony. I'm having a vaginal scar refashioning (all internal) in 2 weeks, my daughter is 18 months old now.

About 10 months, it was incredibly painful so we stopped. I eventually went to the GP as it didn't improve and was referred to a gynaecologist who prescribed me with vaginal dilators ie dildos in various sizes. It was either that or reconstructive surgery. The dilators helped but it took a very long time. (Pretty deep 2nd degree tear which healed with lots of scarring tissue)

About 3-4 weeks after each csection. Like other posters above we were super loved up and high on life. Had sex as soon as my lochia stopped.

My baby is 3 weeks old today and we had sex for the first time a few days ago at 2 weeks 5 days postpartum.

I was a bit nervous but it was absolutely fine! Got a bit of cramp after though.

Six weeks, because if anything wasn't quite right I could've mentioned it at my six week check. That was with DC1. I can't remember with the next two but it was almost certainly longer.

Dead on 6 weeks both times, I felt like it and I like to do things by the book!
First time I had also had episiotomy and 3rd degree tear and it wasn’t entirely comfortable for about 4-5 months. It was definitely better in certain positions, I guess it depends where scar tissue is etc... so husband had to be super patient and happy for me to keep moving him about (sorry tmi!)

Second time I had a much easier birth and it felt pretty much back to normal straight away.

6 months as i wanted to wait until i had finished breastfeeding.

I couldn't have thought of anything worse than sex when my body was still going back to something close to normal.

Everyone is different, whenever you are physically healed and in the mood!

A while! At least 12 weeks I think maybe 14-16.

It was more psychological than physical, I was quite traumatised after watching DS come out of me and I just needed to feel normal again. I was also totally terrified to orgasm the first time, for some reason.

DH was very patient and didn’t push or mention it, wouldn’t expect any less but still, lot of respect for that.

There seems to be a huge range of what is normal so I'll just have to be patient and carry on with non penaterive stuff for now.
DH seems to find me sexier after birth which is something I really didn't expect. I guess we're both just feeling a bit loved up.

Thanks for sharing ladies!