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I'm really getting scared now

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cherryappl · 13/11/2020 10:27

I Chose to have a c section it's only next week and it's like it's only just hit me I'm so scared like the thought of what they'll be doing and I'm scared about the recovery aswell

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Holliej · 13/11/2020 21:47

Don’t be. Honestly I ended up with an emergency c section after 3 days of labour in late March and it really wasn’t too bad. The doctors and nurses are amazing and know what they are doing. You have to trust them. In terms of recovering, it is painful but make sure you have plenty of paracetamol/anti inflammatories in the house. Also make sure you have some serious granny pants.. the bigger the better - best bit of advice I was given. Take it easy when you get home. if you have a partner, make sure you take all help offered and more. And don’t go climbing up a ladder 3 weeks PP cleaning windows like me.. wouldn’t recommend it. Good luck and congratulations on your new baby xx

MintyCedric · 13/11/2020 21:50

Second the above comment...I had an emergency CS and honestly the op itself was the best part of the whole experience.

If I'd had a second child I'd have opted for an elective no question.

I had bit of trouble healing in the first 10 days but was still getting about OK and driving after 4 weeks.

loutypips · 13/11/2020 21:53

I had a section as my dd was breech. It was actually a really calm, lovely experience. I wouldn't hesitate to do it again.
Recovery wasn't as bad as other ops. Having my gallbladder removed was MUCH worse!

BluSpider · 13/11/2020 21:54

My c section was lovely, peaceful and civilised. They gave me all the happy drugs and I felt absolutely euphoric. Recovery was a breeze, I only had paracetamol and it really wasn’t a big deal. I wouldn’t hesitate to have another.

MyNameForToday1980 · 13/11/2020 21:56

I had a pretty grotty emergency csection after a long and unpleasant labour.

Seriously, the csection was amazing, if I knew then what I know now, I'd have fought for an elective c-section.

Sure recovery is tiring, and it's weird how much strength you temporarily lose. But the pain was entirely manageable, and I felt pretty much fine after a couple of weeks.

cherryappl · 14/11/2020 08:10

A lot of People are telling me that afterwards for weeks and weeks it feels like your guts are going to fall out and saying that the wound is sore and hurts for weeks and that you can't move and bend and stuff

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Wilfy101 · 14/11/2020 08:37

People who tell you that are not your friends. Of course the wound is sore, you've had surgery but you recover. Take it easy, move little and often and keep on top of pain killers.
There's some useful threads on here for c section recovery, definitely have a read.
Good luck.

cherryappl · 14/11/2020 08:46

@Wilfy101 thanks I definitely will 😊 I've been watching loads of YouTube videos of girls who've had c sections and they were all saying the same thing so it kind of just freaked me out and scared me

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Wilfy101 · 14/11/2020 08:52

It's totally natural to be scared, I've had an emergency c section and will have an elective next time, I'm still scared but it's out of my control. Try some relaxation techniques, they always helped me.

IdblowJonSnow · 14/11/2020 09:10

I had an elective c section. I was nervous and frightened but once I was actually in theatre it was very calm and quick.
Your baby will be out in 10 - 20 mins!
It's a very routine procedure. My recovery was quick and straightforward, up and about almost straight away. Think I drove after 3 weeks.
I hope it's the same for you OP.
It's very natural to fear the unknown, I'm not sure it's possible to magic your fears away. Might be better to accept you'll have some nervousness and not give yourself a hard time about that.
Do you know what you're having? All the best!

IdblowJonSnow · 14/11/2020 09:12

Sorry, I meant to say, it's a very routine procedure for the medical staff to carry out! Not that it's routine for us! It didn't feel that 'major' to me actually but obviously we're all different.

OnTheBenchOfDoom · 14/11/2020 09:27

I think you just need to understand that it is major surgery so you need and must take it as easy as possible. Yes it is uncomfortable afterwards for a few weeks as they cut through the muscle. This isn't unexplained pain which would worry you, this is like when you have overdone it in a body conditioning class and your abs hurt except it lasts a bit longer.

Knowing this means you understand you must take it easy, do not clean or even hoover. Do the bare minimum until you feel ready. Don't be thinking you should be doing stuff. You would be amazed at how many things you do require your core muscle group. Enlist help, do not martyr yourself, get your partner/Dh to do as much as possible.

I had an rushed EMCS after a failed 25 hour labour with a baby in distress so was just exhausted. Recovery was great though. Then I chose an ELCS with Ds2 which was incredibly calm compared to the first one. It was a lovely experience.

As you know it is coming up, fill up your freezer, get a keep hot cup so you tea/coffee stays hot, plan easy snack food. And don't worry so much, you will have your baby to help distract you from any discomfort. Brace yourself when you sneeze, I put a pillow over my stomach to be able to wrap my arm around myself. Wear big big knickers, the huge ones that will go up to your belly to keep it off the scar, wear baggy joggers or pyjama bottoms and be comfortable. This isn't a fashion show.

And this will all fade into some distant memory some day. My sons are now 17 and 14 years old. Grin

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