Sex after having baby

[Lily189]

Im nearly 5weeks after having my baby and my and my bf havnt had sex since before I had him
This weekend our baby is staying with his nanny so I'd love be able to have sex lol
But I'm acc nervous I feel because it's been so long and I'm worried how it feel I had c section
Also how did everyone find time to be intimate we take turns doing nights half times arent even in bed together which I really miss
Just really want find time for us but so hard atm lol

Just take it slow, if you find it hurts just stop. I was nervous after my c section about sex after, we had sex about 5-6 weeks after I can't remember exactly how long after. It was fine.

Consider the first time a “trial run”, OP. Warn your DH in advance that you may need to stop if it’s painful.
Position yourself on top, so DH’s weight is not pressing on your section scar, and so you can control the movement/speed/depth/pressure.
Take your time, plenty of foreplay and/or lube, particularly if you are breast feeding, as the vaginal mucosa can be a bit dry from the excess of progesterone/reduced oestrogen.
A glass of wine may help to relax you, but excess alcohol will be numbing and make it harder to reach orgasm, so don’t be tempted to finish the bottle!
Good luck. It’s a nice milestone in your recovery, when you can resume your sex life, and is usually a great relief for both partners after the prolonged abstinence!

gosh, it was four months before we had sex after my DC was born. you don't need to rush it.

I was told to wait 6 weeks min when I had mine. Just take it easy

I admire your self restraint, Juniperandrage. I jumped on DH after 3 weeks, despite his fear of causing damage! But I hadn’t had a section like OP, just a 4 stitch episiotomy.
At that age, three weeks of abstinence seemed unendurable to me. Ironic that DH died when the DDs were babies and I’ve now been celibate for decades...

It wasn't restraint I was just knakered!

I had my second section in september. It was about 3 weeks post section that I couldn't wait anymore! DH knew that it was trial run and we made need to stop but everything was fine. Just took our time and he went by my lead. 6 weeks on and we have a relatively normal sex life all be it around feeds and the other children.

Sex didn't feel the same for me for months. I had my daughter in January and didn't start regularly having sex again until August so about 8 months. Before that it was painful. To begin with it was my episiotomy causing pain, then granulation tissue and then (I suspect) dryness from breastfeeding.

Contraception, contraception, contraception, the risks of a pregnancy straight after a c section aren't small. You have had major abdominal surgery very recently, take it easy, very easy!