Overdue and hating doctors....

[grey12]

rant warning!

Just came back from the hospital feeling completely disappointed and let down....

It's my 3rd pregnancy and all have gone beyond the due date. I have talked in a different post how I have been bullied/lied/.....wtv into numerous sweeps and induction. And my experience with the first induction was terrible.

That was in a different country, very trigger happy for medical procedures. From what I read, the UK seemed much more forward thinking. But I have just been through the same bullsh**......

My previous experiences have left me with anxiety issues towards the end of the pregnancy. Last night it felt like the baby's movements were less strong (baby changed position?!). I decided to wake up DH and go to the hospital for monitoring. I was expecting reassurance, baby is fine, this is your anxiety talking, go home! Oh no!..... That's not what happened! Doctor said I was a risk pregnancy because of going 5 days beyond the due date, and any other concern, however minor or imagined, immediately pushes for an induction (disclaimer: I am very healthy, no other problems whatsoever). It's like my health is being determined by some 18th century guy who said pregnancy is "10 moon cycles plus a few days"!!!! (Honestly! Look it up) What kind of mambo jambo is this??!!!! Not only do I have previous experience with overdue pregnancies, I also have family history. And doctors are completely dismissing everything.

I sat in that room and a part of me wished I hadn't gone into the hospital!!! And that is BAD! It goes completely against what I believe and what I studied at university even!! (I'm a biomedical engineer with focus in patient monitoring)

So it seems that I'm being induced on monday..... with drugs?!!! (Never heard of a tape?! Doctor refused to say anymore) Wtf?!!! When did I fall down Alice's rabbit hole?! And how do I get out??!!!

That’s great, well done with the breastfeeding. The early days are hard sometimes with it and when cluster feeding sets in have a travel mug of tea and a good book or the tv remote handy!

We are ok. Two of my kids aged almost 5 and 6 are now self isolating as Covid has hit their school year groups. I’m a single parent and the next two weeks with a non isolating almost three year are going to be challenging !

Hi everyone! :) thanks for the concerned messages, you're all very kind!!

Like I said, the hospital kept me in for monitoring, which was good, I got to rest. My toddler kids were missing me though

Thursday at 1am started getting proper contractions!!! Yay!!! Baby actually chose her birthday while waiting to be induced Midwife did break the waters still and OMG!!! Labour went into overdrive!! I was 5cm and 15min later baby was out! Contractions had no rest whatsoever..... it was terrible, I cried a bit..... Because it was stressful for baby she went into bradycardia (slow heart rate) and the crash team came flooding in. As soon as they got me in stirrups I had the urge to push and in 3 pushes the head was out. It was intense but baby is healthy and doing great and we're home already

Her sisters love her to bits

@Viletta congratulations on your baby

Oh! I forgot to say! My midwife was amazing!!!! After the labour she came to talk to us concerned because I had started crying and she thought it eas because I hadn't been happy with the labour not going according to plan. I reassured her that wasn't the case :) I was really moved by her concern and the fact that she came to talk to us about it, so caring!

@grey12 awwww congratulations!!!! Glad all went well! Looks like you stayed positive despite change of plans and I think it's so important the baby girl was born when she wanted! Enjoy all the cuddles and hope you get lots of help these early days. I got family around helping with cooking and cleaning and we find it is so helpful and we can concentrate on our little one.

Ugh this thread made me cry OP!

Your experience is very similar to mine. I had a traumatic birth with my second and it has really made me question going through it again.

But seeing the picture of your daughter's little hand set me off! That is why we do it. Congratulations to you and to your family!

Congratulations OP, so glad it went well in the end, amazed they couldn't keep their hands off despite the labour starting naturally and going well. They absolutely did not need to break the waters, this could have affected the baby as waters protect their fragile bodies from direct impact of contractions!

@Coronet08 you do have a point.... It crossed my mind that at 5/6cm they could have just let it run its course. The midwife was expecting me to be about 2/3 cm, so it seems I was progressing well

@grey12
Wonderful news and congratulations
I can imagine her big sisters are besotted with her.
Hope you are recovering well

I had a ferocious fast labour with my third baby. Established labour to delivery all of five minutes and according to my midwife the fasted every labour she’d presided over in 24 years! The red button was pressed for me as I was pretty much in some sort of awful distress and his heart rate slowed and all manner of people came dashing in as he decided to pop out. We were both shocked I think.

Enjoy your lovely new baby
Just the most precious time x

@Coronet08

Congratulations OP, so glad it went well in the end, amazed they couldn't keep their hands off despite the labour starting naturally and going well. They absolutely did not need to break the waters, this could have affected the baby as waters protect their fragile bodies from direct impact of contractions!

My first son was almost born in his amniotic sac. They decided to break them as his head crowned and he turned at that point causing awful tearing and me needing 38 internal stitches. As well as an amniotic tsunami

I do rather wish they’d left him in there to come out!