Anyone else more terrified of labour 2nd time round

[OnlyFoolsnMothers]

Just that, I cannot handle one more person saying “oh you’ll be fine you’ve done this before”.

I can’t even lay claim to a horrific birth with DD whos now 3. It was natural, I didn’t tear or rip, she was born within 5hrs and I was up and about soon after. But OMG the pain- I was never scared before her; I thought “but loads of women do this, it can’t be that bad”
I am so utterly petrified to give birth again, I’m 33 weeks and feel sick thinking about it. Equally I don’t want a csection with another child to care for.
Anyone feel worse second time than first?- just looking to know I’m not the only one.

Honestly I was terrified and I swore blind I needed a c section. But I managed it on gas and air after having epidural before. Number 2 shot out aswell. The only it of pain was the last push. Male consultant made me laugh, I always remember it, your second and third will shoot out and you will wonder what you was worried about and he was right!

And I didn't realise I wondered in at 10cm dilated the midwife laughed! I thought I had bad wind!!

Number 2 was quicker for me but the contractions were more painful. Only way I could cope was pacing up and down the room. When it came time to push midwife didn't believe me, two pushes and he was out.

Yes, in almost 35 weeks and if I was offered c section I'd jump at the chance. The birth of my first was fine, I managed till 6cm and then had an epidural, end up with ventouse and episiotomy but it was fine. This time I can't stop thinking that I still don't know what its really like as I had an epidural the first time. I'm praying I can get another epidural.

I am currently 34 weeks on DD2. I had a pretty horrible birth first time around. 52 hours, no pain relief, episiotomy, ventouse, panic as her heart rate fell rapidly.

I was utterly terrified of doing it again since I walked out of the hospital with DD1. I have been mentally preparing myself by doing more preparation, so I have really looked into hypnobirthing, I have looked more into the physical process of birth and the muscles, and I have been reading positive stories rather than negative. I have also been doing yoga on Instagram with a girl called Lucy flow yoga. I highly recommend her. She is focused on women who are scared of labour.

I think birth is a mindset sometimes. Of course the physical stuff is hard, but it's so hormonal based that being calm should help a lot. I have accepted my fear, but have decided not to let it rule me. I am going to do what I can to cope.