Mine was five years ago now. I had a long labour, ds was back to back and unfortunately for me, the contractions were very regular and a nasty pain from the very start; and I had 50 hours of it. From the 'nasty' pain they got truly horrendous - and after 24 hours of coping at home, I went in to Hosp to find myself, hopefully, at least 6cms dilated; nope, 3cms.
The midwives treated me as not in labour because of this, despite my real agony and lack of rest; anyway to cut a long story short, after 40 hrs I got an epidural, and when they monitored me for that they found that ds oxygen levels in his blood were dangerously low, and it was literally a 'run the bed along the corridor' situation, knocked out with GA, DH not allowed in the room, and ds born - thank goodness, all well and healthy.
I couldn't hold him for ages as had that shock reaction where you shake violently in recovery. Lip was masively swollen where they had whacked in the tubes. Stomach, the next day, SO swollen that it was bigger than it had been with ds in
It was a brutal experience, very traumatising. I didn't have a de-brief, not offered, but I did go to my old ante natal teacher to talk it through and that helped.
Why it happened - not really given an explanation, I've just assumed it was the back to back labour that made it so long.
As time has gone on I see things much more clearly; bonding between me and ds, absolutely fine; adored him and was smitten very quickly. But I think the trauma, and the exhaustion, and the effects on ds, and lack of support from hosp, conspired to make BFing not happen. At the time I was ok with that, but since, I am not at all ok with that and I really regret it.
I'm not having another; but not because of the birth. There is a bit of me that will always be sad not to have the experience of a normal birth.
good thread, daphne. Why is it on your mind tonight do you think?