am here mars, but am cross
consultants do not always, though they should , give you the correct advice for each individual.
you are allowed to question them, you are allowed to research it yourself.
ask yours how many uterine ruputres he has seen, i asked mine, the silence that followed was priceless
i am not, nor have i ever dismissed it as a risk, but in light of the benefits, it is one worth taking, IMO. well, it was for me.
also, i take issue with repeat c.s when first c.s was for 'failure to progress', very often as a result of a failed induciton, in my mind that is not an adequte reason, as there are so many reasons why labour might fail to progress.. and no reason they should be repeated in a subsequnet labour.
also, why should a c.s be needed because baby is a little larger.... women can and do give birth to big babies, having the confidence in your own body, rather than being scared , is the first step.
obstetricians see the very worst case scenarios and are experts in the complex and abnormal, midwives are the experts in the normal.. IMO and IME obs. tend to err on the side of caution as they see more of the bad stuff.
at the end of the day it is a personal decision, but i hear from a lot of women who feel bullied and pushed into making a decision that pleases their doctor rather than themselves.