Hi! My firstborn is 4.5 months now. I was fortunate to have a good labour and delivery with her. No tears or stitches, just a couple of grazes that could heal on their own.
I healed pretty quick. My partner and I had sex for the first time again at around 5 weeks postpartum. It felt fine, I was just a bit worried as I didn’t know what to expect lol so I focused on that. From there on, sex seems to be generally painful when ‘entering’ and then afterwards. I know that’s because of the lack of lubrication so we do use it where needed as I am breastfeeding so it won’t always work on its own lol. Hormones are funny old things...
So anyway we had see yesterday afternoon, and today after my shower I felt as though I wanted to ‘inspect’ 
as it was hurting. After looking I realised I have kind of torn a little. Just inside at the bottom, at my perineum. Nothing major, just a little bit of skin that’s now gone white and underneath is a bit raw so I assume that’s like the scarring. It does hurt a bit though. It didn’t hurt during sex this time though as I was very turned on and it all worked properly lol. But maybe it’s the fact I didn’t have any ‘entry lubrication’??? 😂😂 like on the outside. could it possibly be that? Should I add lube for the outside? Do you think that might help me from breaking every time lol
Also, would regular sex help this? We haven’t been that regular as of late so I feel like when we have sex it’s like one step forward and three steps back if that makes sense🙈
Just kinda getting me down as I love sex with my partner LOL
Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you!