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Birth experience

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dogcatbaby · 28/06/2020 23:49

My first baby ended up with emergency C section for which I was put to sleep. I was pretty out of it before the section and when they explained why it needed to happen after the birth so I'm not really 100% sure why it happened that way. I know it was to do with the cord which could have left my baby brain damaged or still born. I was told after I could have a VBAC if I had another child but the midwife who said that was the one who visits after birth so I'm not sure she had my notes. At the time I was fine about it all but a few months later it hit me and was a difficult time. I couldn't cope hearing or seeing any birth stories and wasn't in a good place.

It's now over 2 years later and we are planning our 2nd. Before I get pregnant I want to know what happened with the birth and why it happened like it did. Do midwifes do a birth debrief this long after the birth? I could request my notes and try to work it out if not. I got so many questions which will be answered if and when I get pregnant again but I kinda want to ask them now so I'm prepared. Saying that, it won't stop me having another child if I can so maybe it's a bit pointless but at least I will know what questions to ask. Do midwives get your notes on previous pregnancy's when you go to the first midwife appointment?

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SockQueen · 29/06/2020 09:41

You should still be able to get a debrief at this stage, though with current restrictions this might be over the phone. I'd recommend this over trying to work it out yourself from notes as they can be hard to understand if you don't know the technical language. If you were to get pregnant again the midwife at your booking would not automatically have your previous notes so you may want to try to get your debrief first so you can straighten things out in your head.

Showmethecake · 04/07/2020 12:46

I had a crap first labour and when I got pregnant second time I realised I hadn’t dealt with the experience at all.
I booked an appt with the birth listening service at our hospital and a head midwife went through my labour notes with my husband and I. We asked questions, talked about what had happened and afterwards I made a plan with the perinatal mental health team for the birth of my second child.
Discussing it all was a tremendous help and I understood why things had happened in a certain way.
I also did hypnobirthing for my second labour and the two experiences were poles apart!! I would really recommend speaking to the hospital/maybe ask your GP and look into hypnobirthing as well.
Good luck!

Showmethecake · 04/07/2020 12:46

PS I didn’t do the birth debrief until 2 years after first labour

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