I have a dilemma and not sure whether to go with the flow or kick up a fuss.
Background
I’m due on 11th July (scan date) or 3rd July (my date from lmp)
This will be my 4th section and I was told at my first consultant appointment that they wanted to avoid natural labour and that I’d be booked in between 37-39 weeks for an elective c section.
Pregnancy has gone well so far and we agreed on 39 weeks
At my appointment last week they couldn’t book me in for 39 weeks as there were no slots. Booked me in for the 7th but I was so upset that they weren’t listening to my concerns about this is potentially over my due date (I know they say the scan is more accurate but at the last 4 growth scans baby is measuring 1 week 2 days bigger which fits with my due date based on lmp) that I’ve had 2 babies at 39 weeks so could go in to natural labour and end up with an emergency c section anyway. I’d been looking forward to a planned calm delivery experience and the doctors don’t seem to care.
Anyway, as I was so upset the doctor said she’d move it forward to 39 weeks so expect 3rd July but this wasn’t guaranteed as they don’t have space and that I’d get a phone call. Do I wait? Do I kick up a fuss. One doctor said they’d do it on 1st July as they have spaces but she needed permission from my consultant but from my very sparse notes it seems she never contacted my her.
To add to all of this my partner has been made redundant - he has a job interview next Thursday but I’ve said I’m not sure he can go as we have no idea what’s happening (but then we need him back in work so do I just go alone to the hospital if I’m booked in? Our other 4 children need childcare arranged but haven’t seen another adult or family member as we’ve been shielding for the past 13 weeks. I feel like all the little niggles are escalating and I’m completely out of control.
I almost feel that with only 10 days to go that this is an emergency Caesarian 😢
So do I chase and moan and out my foot down (would it make any difference) or do I just let the doctors decide what’s best even though I have a horrible feeling that it isn’t (possibly as my 3rd son wasn’t expected to survive due to negligence on the hospitals behalf and so I’m doubting all professionals right now as it’s so unorganised) 😢