New babies and meeting grandparents

[mrssunshinexxx]

Can I ask what people are choosing to do in terms of letting grandparents meet baby ?
I am thinking of meeting in garden and keeping 2 metre distance but it will be so hard as my mum has passed away suddenly 6 weeks ago and I really want my dad to be able to cuddle baby but then that means In laws will have to as well.

@K1999 sorry to hear about your loss too.

I had fully adhered to the lockdown until my mum passed away but sometimes there are things more important than following government guidelines.

I judge this as one of those moments, the same as visiting my Dad to comfort him on the day my mum passed which was strictly against guidelines (I hadn't yet given birth at that time).

@Cazzy198 couldn't agree more we stuck so firmly to the rules birth working from home parents staying in etc and that's what sucks even more the last 5 weeks of her life I didn't even get to cuddle her can't remember the last time we had a cuddle

@mrssunshinexxx me too. My mum was high risk so the last time I physically saw her was beginning of March and at that time I had no idea I was never going to see her again.

She knew she didnt have long left (terminal cancer) and she never got to do the things she had planned as they all got cancelled with lockdown. We all thought she had much longer left than she did and I was certain she would live to see her first grandchild however fleetingly.

My son may never get to meet his Nan but he will get to know her through our memories and her legacy. That's what I try to cling on to.

@Cazzy198 heart breaking

We have to cling on to something as otherwise what's the point to any of it.

I've just contacted cruse today so start some counselling I wasn't open to it not sure if I still am but I need to do something z

@mrssunshinexxx it's worth a go. I have suffered with anxiety in the past and telephone counselling with Cognative behavioural therapy helped me.

It's always hard and daunting starting something new. For me, counselling was painful at first but it was a necessary pain and got better the more I talked about it but it's not for everyone. Remember it's ok if it doesnt work for you, the important thing is your trying.

Stay strong ❤

Thank you @Cazzy198 I am prepared to give it a go I feel like right now things couldn't be any worse so no harm in trying x