Been told partner not allowed with me in c section

[Nonymous1]

Hi everyone

I'm having a completely melt down, this entire pregnancy and in fact my whole life I've been absolutely petrified of giving birth. So much anxiety that I opted for a c section, which is booked for April 20th. I was originally planning for my mum, best friend and boyfriend to be with me for support. Due to the virus I was told I could only have my partner with me. I have now learnt today that he can't even be there with me for support. I have to do this all alone and I am so petrified to the point I feel like I don't want this baby because I'm so incredibly scared of doing this alone, has anyone had a c section on their own before and if so how was your experience

I am sure this will go down as one of the worst times in history to give birth to a baby 😭

This may be true. My trust have tried to bring this in. The obstetric team is pushing against it but not sure how
Much success there will be

Hey ladies a bit of an update, I called my hospital again today who told me they have now changed their decision and will allow partners in for the birth 😍

That’s good, but unfortunately at most hospitals no visitors are allowed on the postnatal ward. Will you be ok being in the hospital for 2-3 nights after your CS?

@bythehair is absolutely right. Our local hospital is giving birth partners 1 hour after the birth before they need to leave. Then they’ll escort the mum & baby to the main door and hand them over to their relatives no matter how long the stay.

Have you tried to do anything to deal with your fear? I was always the same, to the point of not really wanting to get pregnant. When I did fall pregnant, I read the Positive Birth Book, straight away (I was 4 weeks pregnant!!) and I can honestly say I do not feel scared in the least. It's like a complete 180 in my point of view. I think the book just re-framed how I saw birth and weirdly I am now genuinely looking forward to the experience. I can't imagine the book would have that dramatic effect on everyone but it could at least take the edge off - it's got brilliant section on C-Sections too.

Hi @Nonymous1 - have you seen that NNUH are allowing visitors on the postnatal ward during the day but not overnight? I had my section there 3 years ago and sent DH home at night as he’s a sod on small amounts of sleep. Make sure before he leaves that you’ve got water/phone/call bell etc within reaching distance so you can get help from the midwives overnight.

I did!!!! It's fine. I didn't even have pain relief after

I was up walking in 3 hrs. Catheter out in 5 ( I begged to have it taken out early). Walked half a mile to see little one in neo natal 6 hrs later.

Easy as pie!

Also. You've never ever been allowed 3 people in theatre. Only 1. So they couldn't of all joined you anyway.

It's not the worst time

Imagining being in Syria. No hospital. No pain relief. No roof I imagine. Some African women give birth in a field. Strap the baby to their back. Carry on working!

Trust me. This is nothing.

I see they've changed the rules now but if it does happen that you are on your own, remember it will be ok! I'm another poster who had a c-section without a partner as it is not allowed in my country (I think the UK is the exception rather than the rule) and it was absolutely fine.