C section advice!

[november90]

I'm 31 weeks pregnant and my baby boy has been breach for a long time now. He's measuring large so it just feels like he's never going to move :( I'm mentally pre paring myself for a c section.
I'm just so worried because my husband left me at 26 weeks pregnant (completely out of the blue) and he's promised to be there for the baby but has no interest in supporting me. We share a 3 year old. I'm worried about the recovery and driving etc and just wondered if anyone could tell me how their recovery went and what I can likely expect? I feel like my ex is going to try and use me not being mobile against me and I'm really concerned about not being able to drive or lift the car seat etc! I just don't know what to expect!

After my section I couldn't lift the car seat for a few weeks. Started driving at 4 weeks but for some it can be longer.

I’ve had four c sections and the recovery has varied massively. Is there anyone else who could help out for a bit if needed?

The recovery is hard, I couldn't even bend for around 4 weeks. Lifting the car seat is a no no.

Do you have any family around to help out?

Will you have any support?

The hardest thing for me was the night feeds. For the first few nights I could barely move. It took me about 20mins to just sit up. You will need help with the feeds for sure.

So sorry to hear what's happened with your husband. I've had two c sections. Second one was harder as I had my toddler to look after as well - he wanted lots of cuddles and attention and lifting. I over did things with him by carrying him about too soon. If there is any way you could get a helpful family member to come and stay for a week or two to help with the toddler and make sure you have everything you need, I would really recommend it. I was up and about after a week, but I couldn't lift the baby in the car seat for a good few weeks. Really really don't push yourself if you can avoid it.

I'm due to have a section 6 weeks today I'm same as you partner left at 12 weeks so will be alone after he's not even coming to birth my friend is I've not spoke to him since he walked out I have a 8/14/17 year old at home and just plan on taking it one day at a time I have a few friends who are going to help with school run but no family

Had an emergency c-section 6 weeks ago. I started driving after 2 weeks as I felt physically fine. I didn't lift the car seat in and out though for the first week or so, just left it in the car and lifted my baby in and out. I got an infection after 2-3 weeks but that cleared up quickly and didn't cause too much bother and I've still got a lot of sensitivity on my tummy but nothing major.

Thanks guys!
I'm living with my parents now and my mum has already assured me she will be there for me at anytime!
I'm planning on breast feeding so it'll just be me doing the feeds!

Baby can still turn, mine did, i was having a section regardless and she spun from breech to head down 3 days prior and she weighed 10.9lbs. If your ex tries to use the fact that your less mobile due to major abdominal surgery then hes a monumental twat and your well rid, he can be useful though by helping with your 3 year old as a newborn isnt going to run off, you might want to remind him of that! Ive had 4 sections and my now ex left when dc4 was 8 weeks old, exh was never around much before that anyway. All i remember is that i took it easy, very easy, as in sit on my arse and just feed baby easy for the first 10/14 days and then i was pretty much ok, your mum sounds fab, use her because the more rest at the beginning you can get the quicker your recovery will be.

Oh bless you! Men are bloody useless aren't they! They have absolutely NO idea how hard (and amazing) this is!!
I have been referred to a consultant already about the baby being breach, I think because my tummy is measuring larger. My first baby was 9lbs4oz so I'm very nervous this one will be a chubby giant again 🙈

As you’ve got your parents I’m sure you’ll be fine; I’m on day 12 after my section and the first 5 were definitely the hardest but now I can do everything for my 3 year old (and baby) apart from lift the 3 year old and drive: I got my 3 year old out of the habit of being carried when I was pregnant and the driving is annoying but it’s only 6 weeks.