Birth Partners

[sophiecrystal411]

Just need some advice about what to do about my birthing partners.

When I found out I was pregnant I told babys dad and he was over the moon and we got closer and started dating again. We took it slow for around 6 weeks and when I was 32 weeks pregnant I found he was cheating. He became very immature, and we didnt speak for about 3 weeks. He recently took a new job and works away every few weeks and we have started talking more and we seem to be ok. Ive found it hard because I do have feelings for him but he really did hurt me at a time I should have been enjoying. Because we aren't together, should I still have him at the birth as he still wants to be?

I'd only have people I love and (most importantly) trust in hospital with me. You're extremely vulnerable.

Anyone who cheats on you, let alone when you're pregnant, can't possibly fall into that category.

Of course you'll find it hard, you've got feelings there and it's difficult to not want a family unit. Just be careful you're not wanting that more and letting it cloud the truth of the situation.
Cheating on you when you're pregnant is low and from giving birth, I wanted my OH close; he had to help me get undressed when I was kneeled on the floor with my body pushing, encourage me, give me water whilst I was sweating ridiculously and then all the after parts too, helping me move about, learning about our baby together.
It's a really vulnerable place and one that could be really scary. You need to be focused on you in labour and not possibly worrying about him. Completely your decision but I'd feel more like he was just a spectator rather than an active participant. I'd say he could see baby later but wouldn't want him there.

No, the birth partner is there to support you, advocate for you and make you feel comfortable. It doesnt sound like he will do that. He can wait outside and see the baby when you are ready