VAGINOPLASTY (SOZ IF SPELT WRONG)

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My2nd baby is now nearly 14 mths been having loads of problems since birth periods really crap since birth(apparantly told as had "normal" delivery "lol" my body knows how to expel hence the worsening of this, piles, with sex etc. been having physio for last 4 mths for help with pelvic floor as getting no sensation didnt help head crowned for 4 1/2 hrs till i finally delivered, they think its damaged nerve endings mucscles etc, and with 2nd degree tear they didnt stitch perinium just left to heel on own, not had decent sex since early pregnancy long time ago. no sensation when other half inside. getting really fed up. has anyone had this done ie tightening up vaginal muscles overstreched at area near rear end and getting rid of any overhang(sorry unwanted skin). (mines like someones peeled somat at left it) yuk. if had done did it help make a difference. my gyne physio lady is putting pen to paper as im back seeing consultant in Sep 6 mths after having coil fitted for crap periods. thats another story (husband didnt need snip after all)if had it done what are your experiences good and bad please i know it doesnt always help but anything has to bee better than what ive got at the moment
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That sounds really difficult to deal with, but you're doing really well to even write it all down!!!

I am sure there is somewhere you could get that type of surgery done, but maybe time will help?

Try to keep smiling

Thanks for your response, just getting really despondant, i dont even want the "swinging from the chandeliers" just normalish sex would be okay. 1st was a section and no problems after the usual waiting time, but hubby getting fed up me double so, just making me really stressed and unhappy, just dont feel like a woman anymore and at 38(not old at all "lol") dont want to end up remaining celibate not through choice anyhow. Cant below after being told i was too old for another section at 37 my body wouldnt heel as well and take longer, that i was informed i was having a "natural delivery" even then i had to be induced as way overdue. and nothing has been right since.amazing how much all these male G.Consults know when they dont have the kids. Anyone else out there with advice or if had done let me know.

I haven't had that done, but I just wanted to let you know you are not alone in the sex issue! I have had ongoing pain since DS birth (18 months ago) and sex is still very much a no-go. I can very much relate to the feeling of not feeling like a woman. There isn't much I can offer on advice, but just wanted to let you know you aren't alone.

Good luck with the physio and the surgery if it goes ahead!

I have just posted on the other page about this. Yes I have gone through similar experiences as you with my 2nd delivery and have been busy over the last 10 months doing all the exercises and physio I can possibly do with no joy. Sex life is really taking a hit and feeling much altered down there with much more space and loose skin etc. I am considering going for a procedure called vaginioplasty to tighten in the vaginal wall and pelvic muscles. Have heard that the procedure is a huge undertaking and can take up to 6 weeks to recover fully, which would be difficult with 2 kiddies jumping about.

I know of a few other women who have had it done and they have said that it made an amazing difference to their sex lives and that they wouldn't turn back.

I wouldn't normally consider plastic surgery or anything like that or undertake things like this lightly, but I really do feel that if something is getting you this down and have such a huge impact on your life why put up with it. It isn't fair to be told that its just one of those things all the time either, us women put up with enough and life is too short.

Well I'm asking about it at my next appointment with the gp. It's been 20 years with no sensation after my first birth. Think I've waited long enough for things to heal on their own

Don't wait as long as I did though OP.

wow, I could of written your message after the birth of my second who was very large baby, also no sensation on one side, all shreds down below as the stitching was not done properly after the 1st one and they did not stitch at all second time even though I specifically wrote in my birth plan to address the needs down below very thoroughly, both times second degree tares but I have a feeling there was full rip in some areas that was kindly ignored as my vagina does not resemble nearly what it used to be before the babies came.
I would be very careful with the term vaginoplasty, it is not a procedure for you if you have any prolapsing. Do you know if you do? Vaginoplasty is purely cosmetic and it tightens things a bit, makes things look nice and closed however it does not fix prolapsing. You need a specialist surgeon for that depending on kind of prolapsing it is.
I have prolapsing and will have that surgery done once we have our last baby. I visited few specialists in that area, private and NHS, they sort of "convinced me" to have anther baby so there are no regrets as after the surgery is done it would not be advisable to be have a baby once all stitched up.
Once thing to tell you though, my ds is is almost 20 months and it feels much better ow since 6 months ago when ds was just 14 months. I think I have gotten use to it more than anything and came to terms with it but it is less on my mind now. But it is just so very hard and sometimes and I do wish I had c-sections sometimes.