Been in hospital all week due to elective section followed by passing large blood clots resulting me staying longer with new born, my problem is lying with how guilty I'm feeling on my two year old?

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Currently sat earlybhours of day 5 in hospital with my beautiful new born no2, equally the guilt I'm feeling on my two year old is getting way to much for me, hoping to be home today but have a feeling it's going to be a long one, my 2 year old is happy as Larry routines been kept normal with his grandparents he's been to nursery as normal etc and visiting me when possible, but I just feel awful what if he thinks I've abandoned him for a new baby, thankfully he's not at his grandparents constantly asking where mummy and daddy are which would pain me even more, did anyone else feel like this ?

I feel awful mixed with pregnancy hormones aswell it's not helping I just want to be back home with my new family

Oh I just wanted to send you some love
I'm 35 weeks pregnant with my second baby and my three year old is asleep next door. I can't sleep and I have a section booked for 39 weeks. My son came at 35 weeks and he went to SCBU and I was in hospital and discharged before him. I was hysterical with guilt thinking about if he needed me at night and couldn't express it.

Now he is three I feel even worse worrying about being in hospital without him. We did lots of prep explaining a sibling is coming etc etc and I hope this will reassure him.
My sister said something great to me a few years ago "don't apply your adult emotions to a child" and it really stuck.

How's the bleeding going? can you self discharge and go home and heal with your family or is it risky? Theoretically you can discharge yourself now, text for a lift home and be back in bed before the world starts it's day.

The lack of sleep you get at hospital won't help. Sometimes being a bit more forthright in hospital helps to get what you want.

Saying to the midwives and nurses
"I plan to go home today. Can we discuss this on the morning round with the consultant today please"

"Are there any medications needed to be ordered from pharmacy so I can be discharged today"

"Do you know what my plan is for discharge"

Can really help

Sending you love I know it's crap xxx