Baby blues

[Lisasanford]

Ok so my very longed for daughter is 10 days old and I feel sad, lonely, anxious and completely freaked out! As well as the lovely stuff these are my overwhelming feelings.Had loads of visitors and think have taken on too much. Big history with anxiety and a bit of depression so I'm so aware of getting PND. Also miss just being me and my husband is that terrible?? Please tell me how I'm feeling is normal.😱😢 Xxx

It is normal but it will get worse if you don't protect yourself.
No more visitors. End of. You need the next week to yourself. You need nothing but support and comfort and anyone who doesn't give you that fucks off.
Don't try and fight your emotions or bury them. If you anxious speak to your partner or whoever your support system is.
And if you do feel it would be beneficial go to the Gp.

Thank you. I am good at talking about my feelings and have lots of support too.

Completely normal to miss your old life. I just had my second and both times I had a strange homesick feeling and everything felt off kilter and out of sorts. It did pass though and now it feels like normal.

Yes that's exactly it! Also my mother in law is very interfering and driving me mad and taking over a lot but luckily she is going away next week or I think I might totally lost the plot! X

I had the same thing too, it was horrible and I was dreading everything but it passed after a couple of weeks. Be honest with how you are feeling and accept all help with the baby. You will start to feel like your new normal soon!

Lelly
Homesick is such a good way to describe it. Op, it’s completely normal and does usually pass. I didn’t want to be alone with my baby. Ask for help if you need it.

I had this with my first - I actually wanted to be at work instead of at home and I missed our old life. I definitely had too many visitors and also had c section so couldn't drive. As soon as I could, I started driving and started to feel better once I got out of the house.

This time (my DD is 14 days old) I thought I'd be better prepared and minimised the number of visitors which has helped but I'm back in the middle of baby blues again. This time I miss our old life just being the three of us! The newborn stage is hard and relentless. The tiredness is awful. Today has been hard - I can't drive, walk far or lift anything for at least another week.

Definitely try to get out for walks if you can and do anything that makes you feel good - today I watched some friends episodes and ate chocolate.

Thank you that's really helped. I also had a c section it was really traumatic and I'm still getting over it. In the last 18 months I had an ectopic, a miscarriage and I lost my dad in July so overall so much hurt and heartache and I think I'm just still trying to come to terms with it all. Xx

I felt a bit like this after dd then suddenly it was as if a cloud lifted and the anxiety reduced.

The primitive bit of your brain wants privacy to bond with your daughter, not a constant cycle of visitors. Don't feel you have to be polite. Tell people it's not a good day or that they can only stay an hour and can they please bring something/do something useful.

Get out for air every day. Find local baby groups. Remember everyone finds this bit hard, it'll get easier.

I felt the same although unfortunately mine turned in to post natal anxiety. If it gets worse just be aware of it. Mine got worse not better as the days went by so I went to the doctor x

What did they do for you if you don't mind me asking? X

Hi @Lisasanford I am on sertraline, they did refer to CBT but the wait was long and to be honest I did feel like I needed additional help quote quick and I don't think there is any shame or weakness in having medication. I've been taking them a month almost now and I am feeling much better. I am glad I went and have got it sorted quickly. X