Sex after episiotomy..

[JJR17]

So I'm now exactly one month pp with my first, and I had a mediolateral episiotomy. Me and my OH feel really ready to start having sex again. My stitches have dissolved and they feel absolutely fine except a teeny bit of discomfort in the very bottom of my vagina where the beginning of the insicion was. Has anyone else felt like this 4weeks after an episiotomy&had sex and it been fine? I'm so worried about it really hurting or tearing again:/x

Mine was very painful when we tried the first time at 10 weeks postpartum so we waited another 2 weeks til 12 weeks .
At 4 weeks my episiotomy was completely healed together but was very red and didn't feel comfortable.

I would wait a while , the recommended time is 6 weeks minimum as your body needs to heal internally too let alone the episiotomy .

But good on you that you have the energy and can actually be bothered for sex at 4 weeks postpartum 👏🏻

We had sex abit sooner than you OP and was fine. Took it slow and was prepared to stop, I will say though that after we had finished I felt alot of pressure down there which I didn't feel during sex so we waited another week before having sex again.

If you feel comfortable enough then I don't see a problem. In the first slight of discomfort I would stop.

Will probably try and leave it another couple of weeks. I've had a look at the scar and it's pretty much white now and healed, it's just a little bit tender at the beginning but only when I've applied pressure to see how healed it really is.. my body also heals very quickly. But will have to wait and see I suppose..

Kudos - I am 4 weeks pp too, didn’t have an episiotomy, and there ain’t no way my DH is going anywhere near me yet!!

I’d probably leave it another couple of weeks to have full sex and just do ... other stuff with each other in the meantime. Even if it feels pretty much healed it might not be internally.

Sorry forgot to mention I had a mediolateral episiotomy too.

Took about 7 months for it not to hurt for me!

So frustrating because every ones bodies are so different I suppose you just don't know until you try.. am definitely prepared to stop if we need. Not having a check up until 8 weeks either.. so would have to hold off another 4 weeks and that seems like ages to me now😂😂

We had sex about 4 months after my dd was born. Really wasn't very comfortable and had to ask dh to stop. But it did get a lot better and I'd say by 6-8 months it was back to normal again. Just let yourself heal in your own time and there's plenty of foreplay to be had in the mean time. Good luck

I would wait op... do other stuff if you need to be romantic

You can only try. Take it slow and steady.
After my second baby I was good to go immediately.... Which resulted in baby number 3... And I constantly tore my scar area for a loooooooong time after that.
Get it while you can I say!

Am I wrong in thinking that you should wait six weeks for the wound where the placenta was to heal? I was under the impression it was an infection risk.

It took me ten months unfortunately.

I'm lucky enough I only had a labial tear which didn't require stitches and seems to be healing well. I now just have some aching/dragging at the front of my foof, which is getting better every day (I'm 2 weeks pp).

Even so I'm going to wait until I'm about 6 weeks pp to try the full shebang- midwife recommended trying to have sex before my 8 week check up if I felt up to it, so I could raise any pain issues with the GP.

Update- Thank you all for the advice! We did it the other day, and I only felt a small bit of discomfort in the beginning, but everything was fine from then on&it felt completely normal!