Favouring c-section over VBAC though I know it’s probably wrong...

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I know VBAC is probably the safest etc option but struggling to commit to commit to that as a decision.

My 2nd baby is due just after my 1st 2nd birthday. Im 30 weeks. I had a scheduled c section previously due to her being breech. This was likely because I have a heart shaped (bicornuate) womb and poor posture so I assumed it would be the same this time and decision made for me to have another scheduled c section.... well she’s head down and now I have a decision to make and I’m very indecisive! If I’m really honest I just want another c section as this is what I know and it was all fine last time and I didn’t mind the recovery. Oh and I’m scared of a VBAC... These are the (some of them silly i know) reasons I’m worried:

• Feel like I’m more likely to regret not going for c section than not VBAC . If VBAC goes wrong I know it can go really wrong and I will think why the hell didn’t I just go for c section. Not as likely to regret other way around as I will be thinking VBAC could have gone badly wrong and landed in c section gone wrong anyway.

-I’ve developed an Ab split ( diadtisis recti ) and I am also extremely unfit, have very weak muscles and inflexible everywhere. No exaggeration. I’m very lanky and can’t even lift the lightest weight in the gym (that I don’t go to). Worried my body will not deal with labour well. Also easily get cramp in my hip and can’t sit in certain positions -Also worried about down there as I’ve been prone to haemorrhoids since I was a teenager and have them terribly all the time. Also my bits are overly tight, intercourse is always painful initially and so think things could end up a mess!

• Just generally really scared and will be panicking whole time if pain is normal and if scar hurts. And I guess for this reason can’t opt for certain pain relief.

-Worried she might turn breech during labour and why risk the much riskier emergency c section in this case. -History in my family in haemorrhaging badly after childbirth... -Worried as know VBAC needs to be closely monitored and 2nd labour can be quick but will take 40-60 mins to get to hospital from where I am depending on traffic. If I’m at work, 2 hours!

On the other hand, I want a third child and I know that VBAV is probs the right thing to do and favoured by medical staff and most people in my situation...

Am I just being Chicken or are my points valid?

Please please no diggy/ Nasty/negative comments please. Feeling emotional and low and they will plunge me even lower

Thanks in advance :)

So the only positive for a vbac is that other people think you should have one.
After two c sections is a vbac really considered the best option?

No, I know there is lots of positives to VBAC but don’t need to list them as everyone knows what they are. But fear of it is overwhelming those positives for me at the moment

Only 1 c section before this is my 2nd baby

I really feel for you as have a similar dilemma. My little boy was breech 3 years ago. The c section was amazing and my recovery was great. I am also scared of labour for similar but not identical reasons to you.

This time around (I’m 36 weeks now) I really thought it would be a repeat of the first time as I assumed my current pregnancy would be breech. But the baby is firmly head down (and pressing very heavily on my pelvis). I weighed up the pros and cons of VBAC and decided to opt for another c section.

Yesterday I had a meeting and booked my c section for the end of this month. I also have a large ovarian cyst and thought I’d made up my mind as they can remove it at the same time. But overnight I have been having huge doubts as this head-down baby feels so ready for a vaginal birth and I am a bit scared of the complications of a second c section and cystectomy. I think this’ll be my last baby but not sure!

So I am not sure I’m being particularly helpful but just wanted to say I understand completely. I’m trying to tell myself that the main thing is having the baby, not the way he comes. And it’s a very tough dilemma we are facing because the vaginal route just wasn’t open to us last time (quite literally!).

Having said all of this I am feeling extremely tired and having a lot of aches and pains down there. So maybe nature is going to decide for me. I’ll keep you posted!

Honestly, just go with your gut. Have the section. There’s no guarantee your VBAC wouldn’t fail anyway. And you are already saying you feel like you might regret not going for a section, so if you did have VBAC and it all went tits up you’d blame yourself which would cause a lot of distress and anxiety to you.
After 1 section your risks associated with VBAC are very low so that’s why you’re encouraged to have a VBAC. However, after 1 section you always have a choice. It is the HCP job to highlight the risks of both a c section and a VBAC to you, so listen to them, do your own research and make your own decision confidently. There is absolutely NO shame in having a second elective section.
Also at 30 weeks there’s still quite a chance of baby turning in the next 2-4 weeks.

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Whew, where I went for babies my obstetrician would not even allow this and she was a mum herself. Go with the c-section. I had 3 c-sections and DSis had 4.

The risk to the baby’s health is too great and nowadays c-sections are so smooth you are up and about the same day.

Go with what you want. I had CS over VBAC because I wanted one for lots of good reasons but actually none of that really matters. I had CS because I wanted one. It was a very positive experience.

Thank you for kind replies!

I’m glad as was worried people would criticise me for wanting c section so thank you. Or say I was being unnecessarily anxious. Glad to know I’m not the only one feeling this way. I agree that if I don’t go with my gut I’m just gona beat myself up if doesn’t work out! Which will be awful.

Yes keep us posted AmberRose17. You don’t have long to go. Exciting!

Have the C section. My third birth was abdominal and it was my best.