Feeling pressure for DD to arrive on time

[holliemhurst]

I’ve been so cranky these past few days overly emotional and getting annoyed at the slightest thing. Due this Saturday so 39 weeks + 3 days and eagerly awaiting DD arrival, but I’m getting so frustrated with family who are constantly bombarding me with calls and messages to see if there’s been any progress and then telling me what day she can and can’t arrive on to best suite their schedule. Literally it’s causing be undue stress and unnecessary pressure. I feel awful, as out of the 5/6 people irritating me 2 have genuine reasons. My partners step dad has major surgery on the 17th and is scared he won’t make it through so is hoping to see DD before and my dad has booked flights from Asia ( where he lives) for the 17th because previous commitments won’t allow him to come until Christmas time. She’s due the 13th and I’ve had no signs she’s coming soon and my next appointment is the 17th for the sweep. But I feel so under pressure to produce our little one in time for everyone and my OH doesn’t seem to understand how I feel at all. Am I just overly hormonal and being daft ?

They all sound ridiculous. Do they realise you have no control over this and 50% of babies arrive after 40 weeks?!

Try relax, hard as that is I know. It's bloody annoying and rude. It's nothing to do with hormones. I would message them all and say you'll be in touch when baby arrives and ignore any other messages.

I went really over with my first and the constant messages 'had that baby yet' drove me INSANE!

I was also bombarded with these sorts of messages.

In the end I snapped and told everyone to leave me alone and I’d contact them when anything was happening as the constant messages were causing me stress

Firstly, congrats on growing a full term baby! We're practically bump buddies (I'm due on 12th) and even though we made a conscious decision to not tell anyone our due date, instead saying 'mid October', the messages have begun asking if baby is here...!! I've gone along the lines of saying 'our baby will arrive when our baby is ready and we'll of course let you know when we are all well and healthy enough to be in touch, until then, wish us luck!' That seems to have stopped most...or what about something like this...

If all else fails...ignore/mute/turn your phone off. Anything you can do to make you relax and rest these next few days (weeks..?!) can only help. Good luck!

Refer them to this helpful website: [http://haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/]

@redexpat 😂😂😂

Seriously though, this is not okay! Do text all of them pointing out that term is 37-42 weeks and they need to STOP messaging and texting you, and wait patiently to be told.

on your behalf!

OP, i was about to make a similar post and then i saw yours.. i know EXACTLY how you feel...
I am a few days over my due date and about 10 days before my due date till now i have been receiving constant calls and messages from friends and family asking if baby is here yet... It's driving me insane. Also my mum and her partner came from abroad for the baby's birth and now they are leaving in a few days and baby is still not here. That's extra pressure since i can see they are disappointed and getting frustrated with every passing day. It's not helping that they are getting phone calls and messages from their friends as well asking for baby news.
I don't think you are being daft. You have every right to want peace and quite. I know I feel like i need some space from everyone!
I have also swore to myself that if we ever have another baby i am gonna lie about due date and say it's 2-3 weeks later than it actually is. I only wish i had done this with this one.
I wish you all the best with your pregnancy and baby.

Email or text everyone who may be even remotely interested, ideally in such a way that they can see it is a group message so they don’t take it personally -

Dear all,

I love that you are all so eager for the baby to arrive and it means so much to me that she will have so many people welcome her into the world.

I promise we will let you know what is happening as soon as possible but unfortunately I can’t keep up with so many messages every day. It is also making me anxious and I have been told —by some Mumsnet random— that it can slow things down. So, please help me relax and talk about anything and everything except the baby’s arrival.

Love Hollie

Why does strike through never bloody work for me???

My baby was born 12 days overdue. Even my Mum asked me several times: No baby yet? People stopped asking after I replied: Yes, I had the baby last week, but she's really ugly so I'm hiding her! Or said to another person: Yea, I had the baby, but forgot to let everyone know.