something may happen to me during csection....

[Mumof1littlemonster]

Hi ladies,

Need to speak to someone else other than my dh as he says I’m being silly.... I have a planned csection coming up in 1month & for the past 2weeks I have been feeling very negative about it & feel like something is going to go wrong and I won’t make it. I’ve even gone to the point of stocking up on extras so he won’t need to worry later on & made a list of what dc 1 likes to eat...

I had dc 1 as a emergency csection & everything went smoothly. I’m high risk as I’m over weight with a high bmi & gestational diabetes’s. Blood pressure has been really well during the pregnancy.

Why am I feeling like this? Is it normal because I’m having planned surgery? Because my last one I wasn’t so was just told at midnight I’m having a emergency csection as I’m not progressing so didn’t really have time to worry.

It’s absolutely normal to feel anxious. I had two emergency sections and a planed one with my third baby and god was I anxious. I even felt sick on the day 😅😅 Try to focus on your baby and everything will go just fine, and when you hear that first cry you even forget about what’s going on around you.
Good luck 🍀🍀

I’m having one on the 17th of this month and it’s my first ever surgery (and first baby) and I’m absolutely terrified.

I was the same OP, had my ds2 by ELCS 3 weeks ago and was convinced my ds1 will grow up without his mum, even gave my dh my bank details etc. It's anxiety, try to breathe and remind yourself you will have great care and will meet your baby soon. Best of luck

Before I left to be induced with DC2 I stood over my DC1's bed watching her sleep with tears streaming down my face, because I was scared I'd never see her again. I did see her again! I think it's a common worry actually, when you already have a child.

Gosh yes, hugely common worry. I think you’d be a bit odd not to worry in this way tbh! It is one of the safest procedures going. If you’re worried this much, ask if you can meet a liaison midwife or anaesthetist. I met mine beforehand and she was so reassuring. As she knew I was so anxious, she had prepared some anti anxiety medication that helped on the day as well.

It’s normal to be anxious about surgery but statistically you’re at higher risk crossing the road. The mortality rate forbelective sections is lower than for either vaginal births or emergency sections. The overall maternal mortality rate is very low anyway.

Outcomes for babies are slightly worse following sections but better for women.

Wow didn’t expect this many replies. Thank you all so much. Reading all these messages above have really made me feel at ease.
Haggisfish I will be seeing my midwife tomorrow for a routine check up so I will definitely bring this up & speak to her about the Anti Anxiety medication.

stroller15 congratulations on the birth of your little one, hope your both doing well

Cathy hope everything goes well for you & baby on 17th

Thank you all so much Ladies, when I do feel anxious I will be coming back to read these comments x

I had to be asked to be referred to a liaison midwife or something-she was a senior one at the hospital.

I felt exactly the same - DS1 was an EMCS so no time to think. DS2 was an ELCS and I spent the day before in tears convinced I wouldn’t be coming home. Of course, everything was fine and I came home the day after DS2 was born safely.

I can’t think of anything to say to stop you worrying, but I felt the same way and I’d like to think it’s wuite normal! Definitely not a sign of anything to come.

I had a horrendous emcs with dc1 and was convinced I was going to bleed to death during my repeat with dc2. Updated my will, left detailed instructions and letters for both of them, managed to make dh cry. I lost 300 ml of blood.

I was 9 days overdue with my ds and on the morning of my last hospital app I remember clearly looking at my dd (almost 3) it was an odd feeling as I didn't know my ds would be born that night but I was drinking her in. I took a photo of her that morning (sob) the last as an only child.
I arrived at the hospital and was told I was being kept in, the fear was overwhelming. I thought I'd never see my dd again. I cried down the phone to my Mam.
for you op

Hi OP

Not unusual at all, judging by this thread and my recent experience.

DC2 was born via ELCS 9 weeks ago (DC1 was ELCS for maternal request) and I felt very anxious in the weeks leading up to the birth.

The feeling that this time something would go wrong, that I'd used up all my luck already. It didn't help that I read a few articles online about bad outcomes with repeat ELCSs...I couldn't help myself and it certainly didn't help my state of mind!

If it's affecting you significantly, I would speak to your midwife about it. Good luck

Thank you for all your replies... reading these has made me feel abit better as I thought it was only me. I now am feeling abit better about the whole birth xx