Does it ever go back to normal

[Meganc559]

I know this is different for everyone but I just wanted to know does your vagina ever go back to being as tight as it was?

Mine is fine now. Maybe there’s a difference but if so I can’t tell. In fact I felt really tight after the birth, in an uncomfortable, painful way. How far postpartum are you?

Mine hasn't.

Mine went back to normal after DD1 though she was only 5.6lb and I had one internal 2nd degree tear. Am currently pregnant with DD2 who is measuring big so don’t think I’ll escape unscathed this time!

Following this thread with interest. @FartnissEverbeans how long did it take to become comfortable again? (I'm 4 months on, had stitches from third degree tear and sex is still too painful to tolerate )

I ve not had my baby yet, I m due next week but was just wondering what people's experiences were x

Some do, some don't. I haven't, but there were reasons for this for me, but as time has gone on I got back to feeling 95% back to normal. DH said he never noticed a difference and I've not suffered from and sexual dysfunction or leaking, so have decided it doesn't really matter!

If you do have problems then there is a lot of help with physio!

Mines gone back to normal, even after an episiotomy. I had a HUGE baby too.

I felt very tight after both of mine and did hurt having sex for the first few weeks both times but when having my DD (second child) she literally fell out an no pain releaf. The midwife told me to imagen your vigina as a balloon that's blew up then let down. It went back but when having another your cervix is looser and your vigina knows how to stretch and make it easier giving birth basically (just a heads up if you have another!)

Good luck anyway!!!! Hope your baby arrives safely xx

Thank you everyone, this has made.me feel alot better! And thank you @MO2x I just hope he's soon! Xx

I had an episiotemy & a big baby and after almost a year I'm still tighter than I was before I had DD, and still uncomfortable sometimes. Being too tight is not a problem I thought I would have after having a big baby 😄 but I guess it's preferable to the oposit issue!

Boys are lazy and if he's your first we'll.... my little boy was 13 days late and back to back. Pain in the arse! You'll be fine. Pineapple juice and keeping busy got me going with my DD pretty quick xx

@SylvesterTheCat - it was ten months before I could have sex without significant pain unfortunately. But I don’t have any pain at all now. I had episiotomy and ventouse delivery.

It was well over 12 month before there was no pain for me, probably 18 or so. Now it's just numb and dry and crap.

Thank you @FartnissEverbeans

Good to know there is hope. Did you keep trying throughout those 10 months (which may have encouraged stretching)? I haven't tried much, just waiting until it feels right until we go at it properly again but perhaps I should do some massage, like perineal massage during pregnancy (which I actually didn't do!)
Thankfully DH is very understanding.

@SylvesterTheCat I also had a 3rd degree and found it took around 6 months for sex to become less painful. When you are ready try lots of different positions, I've found some even now just aren't comfortable. Then again I'm also 25 weeks pregnant so that could have something to do with it. Also lube, lots of lube!

@SylvestertheCat - my doctor told me to keep trying and use plenty of lube! So we just took it slowly. But tbh it was a while before I felt like I could even tolerate it again, so we maybe started making a proper effort around 8 months? I can’t remember exactly. It’s difficult enough with a baby in the house anyway, and for a while my sex drive just disappeared completely so that didn’t help. But we did try, and that was my dr’s advice. Good luck

Oh and my dr also suggested having a wee glass of wine first