DD scalp scarred from birth?

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So my DD is now 2, it was a horrendous birth from start to finish but one of the things that happened during the shitstorm of her delivery was that the (extremely young) midwife (who had spent 24 hours insisting my waters hadn't broken) spent a substantial amount of time with what I can only describe as a knitting needle up me attempting to break my (non existent) waters. Every time SHE poked my baby kicked up at my ribs inside me. I asked her repeatedly if there was any chance my baby could be feeling this and she insisted no. Moments after this the resus machine was rushed in, apparently my little girls heart kept stopping. When she finally came out her head was covered in deep, bloody scratches. It took several months for her head to heal but the soft scars are still there today as a little reminder
The doctors weren't concerned about this and said it would just heal, they don't think her heart stopping was anything to do with it but I find it a little coincidental regarding timings. She was such a nervous child for the first year of her life and I felt bloody awful because I knew she was being hurt and I didn't stop it.
I've told people about this but no one else has had it I know, has anyone else out there experienced this?? I don't know why I'm asking now... It still plays on my mind and I just want to know.

I was delivered by forceps 45 years ago. I still have a scar/scab where hair has never grown from.
But....I don't remember pain but it was a long time ago.
Labour can be horrible please don't beat yourself up. Just do the best you can to love and care for your baby, that's all you can do x x x

Gosh that sounds awful, I'm so sorry you and your DD went through that. If it helps, you have the right to request your medical notes, also my SIL had support I think from the Birth Trauma Association, which was helpful for her when she was planning a second baby. It's totally understandable to still want to process this, and hope you can get support.

The same happened to me but not as bad
DS had quite a few scratches on his head when he was born from the hook they were using to try and break my waters ( which had been leaking for a while)
I don’t know if there are still marks as he’s got lots of hair but he doesn’t seem to have any lasting effects 9 years later
I’m sorry it happened OP but it will be fine

My back waters were broken with one of those knitting needle things. My son was born with a cut on his head from it. He only had one though. He's 6 and I can't see any scars or anything but he does have quite thick hair. I'm going to check later. Sorry you had a horrible birth and a midwife that thought she knew better.

Thank you for messaging back. So it has happened to others... it went on for so long and she was in such a mess. Her head was so covered in bloody at first I couldn't see where it was coming from I thought it was me. I suppose it's one of those days for me when you start thinking about something and then it snowballs a bit. It's interesting just knowing it's happened to others and it is 'a thing'. I just can't help thinking there should be an easier way to break waters in this day and age which don't risk upsetting or hurting the baby. I know if someone cut my head up like that I'd be in agony.

Exactly the same happened to my DS and I. 24 hour labour and the midwife did an examination and decided she could still see membranes, so using the same implement you describe tried to remove them, shortly after my son passed meconium & became stressed, she then realised he was an undiagnosed breech and what she thought were membranes were actually his smooth, shiny little bottom. One EMCS and nearly 7 years later my beautiful boy still has 3 perfect line scars on his bottom!

Oh gosh secret... I can't believe it. Also to still have those scars all those years on I honestly didn't think I'd get any responses on this, it's really concerning, what if these things hit something fragile? Some of the deeper scratches on my daughter were only mm away from her fontelle. My little girl also came out covered in meconium, it would be terrifying for them. Thank you for responding x hugs to you and your DS x

Same haooened to my dd, my waters broke more than 2 days before than finally induced me with the drip and they used the needle to break them. 8 hours later when I hadn't progressed at all they realised they still weren't properly broken so they did them again but this lady was really rough and I was almost jumping off the bed in agony. She had about 10 cuts across the top of her head, 1 quite big. I thought it was just blood from labour at first. But she's 9 weeks now and they've only just healed fully