This is long sorry...
Wonder if some of you could help me weigh up my choices (as much as choice exists) around the birth of my 3rd child.
I’m 39 weeks with DC3. Background is I have 2 DC, born at 39+3 and 38+4.
Both previous labours were spontaneous.
First, started with contractions. Waters only really broke with delivery. Long slow labour, stopping and starting, probably because he was firmly back-to-back. About 48 hours in, pain intolerable due to position and augmentation with induction type drugs, no real break between contractions, baby making no progress and looking tired. Several attempts at epidural failed, success after a couple of goes at a spinal, then delivered by forceps and episiotomy in theatre. Baby a little flat but recovered. Felt like my pelvic floor took a real hammering due to pushing with no sensation, episiotomy, forceps etc. Long recovery but ultimately we were both ok. Probably took around 12 months to feel like myself again though...
Second, started with show and regular contractions again waters only broke with delivery. Hypnobirthed at home till last minute then travelled in during transition and delivered within 30mins of arriving at hospital. No drugs, really straight forward, no sense that I had to actively push (felt like uterus and muscles were just doing it involuntary). Quick recovery, whole thing very text book and amazing. Notably, baby was in optimal position.
I’m now over 40 and given my age, the subject of induction keeps coming up. I haven’t needed an induction before. The reason given being that the placenta is likely to degrade earlier due to my age.
I am really concerned about induction. I didn’t get on well with the drugs during my first labour. The contractions were so much more painful and unmanageable than the natural ones I had with my second. As a result I needed an epidural and it was during attempts with this that it became clear that a cervical spinal condition I have had all my life has badly affected the rest of my spine. I was told by the anaesthetist that my spine is very complicated.
I have had a consultation with anaesthetics antenatally in which there was a lot of discussion about my technically difficult spine including advice to prepare that if a section became necessary I might need a general anaesthetic. I asked them, if that was the case, should we plan for a day time elective section rather than take risks out of hours -they agreed that might be better and we could select a day when the most experienced anaesthetist is available.
On the basis of these worries, each time the topic of induction comes up I have suggested elective section instead. But midwives/obstetrician always comment on my easy 2nd labour (very true, it was easy) and suggest these worries about unpredictable interventions are unduly negative. I don’t think they really appreciate the extent of my spinal issues however; I do have some lasting hidden disabilities.
Feel a bit like my head is mashed trying to weigh up the un-knowable, with HCPs who have their own biases rather than helping me weigh up my personal risks. Would really appreciate some help with thinking this through. So as not to drip feed, current baby is not engaged, still very mobile, including spending a lot of time in a back to back position. Growth scans and health of placenta showing no maternal age related complications. What would you do?