Elective c section

[lauralou172]

Got my consultant midwife mode of birth appointment on Wednesday at the jr to discuss the possibility of having an elective c section...the last few days I’ve been so anxious about the appointment I’m unsure what they are going to say and if they will see my point of view and let me have one based on previous birth...induced, emergency forceps, large amount of blood lose, 3rd degree tear resulting in Physio therapy post birth.
Anyone had any experience with this?

Aw12345 with respect I’m sorry for your experience with sepsis. But your cs was an probably emergency, definitely unplanned, risks are often completely different for a planned cs.
The op has had a very serious tear first time. A second serious tear risks leaving her doubly incontinent.
The risks of what happens to other women during a planned Cs have To be balanced with the risk she could have a further serious tear.

If you don’t want another cs fair enough, but you aren’t facing the possible prospect of no control over your bowel/bladder and prolapse and god knows what else with a second vaginal birth gone wrong.

Op your consultant is a disgrace. I’m so sorry and I’m glad your midwife is supporting you.
I hope legal action starts to happen for trusts that are systematically lying (by withholding information about the risks of vaginal delivery) and treating women’s bodies like a separate entity to the woman’s mind. They won’t agree to a safe planned surgery for her, but they will happily butcher with cuts and instruments to achieve the holy grail of a vaginal delivery. In no other area would such disregard for choice, cruelty and Dare I say abuse, would be allowed to continue unchallenged for so long. Despicable behaviour in modern day healthcare.
If you had a problem with your back they would give you the options, maybe physio, pain relief and perhaps an operation if required. You’d be educated and informed about risks and side effects of all before proceeding. In no way would you ever be forced to have physio you didn’t want, medicine you didn’t want or an operation you didn’t want. But because vaginal birth will happen by default they force it on women. Risks of induction also seem to be frequently withheld.

Op have you seen the post mumsmet have at the moment on the top of chat about birth rights?
It links to this article and a map which shows which trusts are abiding by nice guidelines.

www.birthrights.org.uk/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/Final-Birthrights-MRCS-Report-2108.pdf

Have a look maybe you could ask to see a trust near you that would agree. I’d be interested to see what your local trusts response was to birthrights when they asked to see their policy.

Please don’t be deterred I’m absolutely rooting for you

Motherhoood I felt I needed to post because your comment read as very dismissive and simply that the OP wasn't being assertive enough, and you were ignoring the reality that many trusts are just being obstructive arseholes.

If thats not what your post was intended to read fair enough, I apologise.

I was simply responding to how I interpreted the post and felt it needed a strong rebuttal based on how interpreted.

The sheer inconsistency of how women are treated is appalling. Everyone should have a much less obstructive pathway as its been shown to actually reduce maternal requests if there is simply better communication and trust between patients and hcp.