Did anyone else have this during labour?

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I was pondering about my labours last night (long night with DD2!) and about how, both times, in the latter stages (ready to push) I had this sudden urge to escape. Both times I was induced and hooked up to a monitor so clearly I wasn't going anywhere, but during my most recent labour I remember saying to DH, "I need to go, leave, right now!" and It was only when I said it that I remembered having yelled said something similar the first time round.

I'm guessing it's a primal thing that's a hangover to when we were all living in caves, having to escape predators etc? But I was still just curious to know if anyone else had experienced the same thing!

Yes most women get the ‘I can’t do it, I’m going to die, I want to go home, I’ve changed my mind I don’t want a baby anymore’ moment! Apparently that’s how they know you’re really close!

How weird! I was the same haha

Yes, me too! Decided not to bother today, thanks but nope.

I had a very relaxed and easy home birth and still did this! I couldn’t announce I was going home as I was home. I became convinced during transition that it was obviously impossible for DS to come out and I would require a CS after all. It was a really short lived desire but very much meant at the time!

Yes, I think it’s called Transition

Yes I have a friend who just as baby 4 was crowning very calmly said "nope not today, maybe tomorrow" and started getting dressed to leave

With me it was more psychological I had almost (maybe actual) out of body experience, it was an...unusual labour as we both almost died for different reasons. Just before the symptoms of my issue appeared I still clearly remember (almost 18 years later) just going into myself, totally silent (which freaked the fuck out of then husband as I NEVER shut up!) and felt like I was really in the corner of the room. A few minutes later the medics had to deal with the issue and I sort of zoomed back into my body and refocused.

Dd and I obviously survived but it took some serious intervention and I'm very very grateful to those medical staff - not least for realising what was happening (very rare condition).

But my friends story still makes me laugh, her husband and the midwives having to persuade her to stay put as that baby was coming!

Yes! I told them I needed the toilet, pulled the monitoring wires off and went to the loo - I didn’t need the loo, I just needed some time alone away from everyone (DH came with me though). If I could have stayed in there I would have done!

Later, after DD was born, my notes were up on the screen and I noticed that they said: “ShottaSheriff was very agitated and removed the monitoring wires herself”. Agitated was an understatement - pretty sure it was transition and DD was born not too long after.

"Nope, not today"

That was exactly it, I wanted to tear off the wires and find somewhere quiet!

This is the adrenaline surge you get at Transition between the stages of labour. Always said to be a good sign to a midwife I was told.

Interesting; I had heard of the "I can't do this" feeling at transition, but not the "I'm going to run off through the city in my hospital gown, 28 Days Later style" feeling.

I was wondering whether this is why women in some remote communities in the world have birthing huts as somewhere quiet to escape too. I guess I was maybe awake too long last night!

Yes definitely!

First labour, I was still at home when I got to transition and had an overwhelming urge to throw myself down the stairs. It seemed so logical at the time- if I were to launch myself down the stairs, I would die and therefore not be in pain anymore.

Second time I had a HB but still got the transition terrors. I told the midwife it just wasn’t going to be possible. She disagreed. So I said ‘I’m scared’, so she said: ‘I know. But that’s ok’. 😬

DC1 (hospital birth), I did try to escape. I didn’t want to be induced in the first place, and removed the cannula myself several times.
DC2 (home birth) still got the “OMG I can’t do this” feeling - told my DH he needed to do it for me

Not exactly the same, but very near to my sons arrival (during the pushing stage) I remember insisting that I just "can't do it" anymore. I think that's when you know it's close...

Oh yea, 100%! DD, Born two days ago, waters broke at 2am Monday and went through a 75 hour induction process and labour. and just at the last hour as I was pushing I was just like I've had enough now! I'm not doing this any more

Yes! First time round I was too tired and drugged to give a shit any more, but second time (super fast labour) I said that I wanted to leave and come back again in couple of days. I think she was born about 10 mins later!

Yeah I had this! Looked up at my mum and was like I can’t do it, and my mum said, put your hand down there, and I looked her dead in the eye and said “I can feel his head” two contractions later he was out!!!