Sex after birth.

[MommaBee97]

My DD2 was born a week ago and I was lucky enough to have not had any stitches even though she was 9lb5oz! Me and my partner have always had such an amazing sex life, right up until I gave birth.

I was expecting that given I'm only 7 days postpartum that I'd be emotional, hormones everywhere etc. But if anything I can't keep my hands off my partner, he can't keep his hands off me. We're both so in love again (which isn't a bad thing I know), but for obvious reasons we can't have sex. GUTTING!

I'm not selfish been as I can't have any pleasure doesn't mean he can't 😉 But when your in that moment it just isn't fair! And when you've had a big belly stopping you in your path, now it's gone I just want to throw myself all over him!

How long did you all wait until you had sex with your partners? And how was it? Because I can't wait!

I didn't tear / need stitches after my son was born. Waited 3 weeks, basically when I'd stopped bleeding. Was great

9 weeks. And was agony when we did, despite no scarring etc. Took well over 18months and lots and lots of physio to stop it being painful but it's still crap and nowhere near as good as pre birth.

Girl it moved down there. Keep your adrenalin up and pumping, the lack of sleep is coming and you need the little energy you got to take care of the life you creating. Think of it as a true celibate moment, when you want, adamantly but you can't, remember 1 in 3 women wee on themselves from time to time ? You don't want to be part of that crowd. Put your precious part in COMPLETE shape, and I mean complete before thinking that you can shove anything into it. You will be burning and steaming, and let him burn too. You thought honeymoon was something. Well wait and see. And you have to get back on track with contraception. The classic forty days is de rigueur, and have an examination before you get the green light, and start exercising, feeling in your head and feeling in your body I something else. You don't want to find out that the nerves ain't working. Kegel kegel kegel like you're on honeymoon next sunday. It's normal, little vampire will eat up at least half of this new found stock of love, Enjoy. IT's family brick and mortar. Thanks, I laughed. Remembering the good ol days. In movies people always focus on the first few weeks of marriage, then make up sex, well you will be burning this little fat you have in very enjoyable ways. Burn girl burn !(in 40 days, put a countdown, and at 40 days and 1 seconds please don't brake furniture).

It's early, so many mistakes, sorry.

My mum always says " if you feel up to it do it and make sure you have fun".
I know we're to wait the six weeks but if you feel up to it do it and make sure to use protection you're very fertile right now.

I had a baby 10 weeks ago. Tried to have sex 2 weeks ago but I found it to painful. But tbh I'm to tired to care atm.

Was months for us, due to a personal problem I had after giving birth. Couldn't imagine song it after weeks myself. I'd need longer to heal and recover.

We were back in the saddle 3 weeks after DC2. I couldn't handle it rough, but otherwise it felt fine. I've had two straightforward vaginal births though.

I can't say I've ever felt overcome with post-birth lust (labour is knackering and breastfeeding reduces the lubrication) but as far as I know, as soon as you feel ready you can do anything that feels good. I'd advise taking it slow, using lube, and having contraception in place.

I think we did it at either 6 or 7 days after the birth of DS1. I had no stitches didn't tear just had some "grazing" we took it slow it was fine.

Then the midwife told me a couple of days later at a home visit I shouldn't have sex for another 5 or so weeks, to which I replied oh you could have told me that last week we've already done it!! She just sniggered and said don't do it again for a bit because of risk of infection, we lasted another fortnight before we did it again. Oooops...

7 months. We did try at various points before then but it was just too painful.

We didn't wait very long at all with any of mine probably 2 weeks each time!! I was very lucky to have had straightforward deliveries and we were very careful.

Obviously sort your CONTRACEPTION out FIRST you are often hyper fertile!!!! Do not believe in the breastfeeding = no ovulation bollocks!

DS is a week old, born via emergency c section. I would jump on DH if it wasn’t for the bleeding! I think a lot of it is all the oxytocin from breastfeeding. I’m desperate for the bleeding to stop!

We did it after 9 days. I had an ELCS

I defo wanted to jump all over him! There’s so much joy!

It was a bit sore after and I don’t think it was a good idea!

But I had surgery so....

We did it again after a couple more weeks.

I found Sex at end of pregnancy really hard and I was v sick for last two months (in hospital) I felt so much better when baby was out and ex helped me get back to my old self

So - there’s your mind as well as your body to take care of!

Good luck!

There’s more than one way to have sex - it doesn’t have to be banging. As in major penetration. Maybe just go old school heavy petting!! Lolz

I think it was maybe 9 weeks. To be honest it wasn't so much my recovery but DDs crap sleep that's limited our sex life.

3 weeks after my first, 9 days after my second.

We only waited 10 days. NHS advice is "as soon as you feel ready".

We waited 6 weeks (until I'd stopped bleeding) but also because that's what is usually recommended, to give your body time to recover and you and your partner a bit of time to mentally recover from the experience of pregnancy and labour. However, 'as soon as you feel ready' is a good way to see it. Just be warned that it may not be as you remember (although it could well be even better) and that you may still not have recovered fully down there, even if you feel like you have right now.

Also, and not enough people seem to consider this.. CONTRACEPTION. You can get pregnant within weeks after birth (and are in fact extremely fertile around that time too) so please consider contraception, and as @RandomMess says, breastfeeding is not certain to work as contraception!

Enjoy!!

Why do you need piv to have sex?
He can go down on you, he can massage you etc. You need to heal.

Wow. Still haven't got round to it 11 months later...

Hi . You do it if you feel comfortable after birth. I have after 2 weeks. But be careful

2 weeks after dd
3 weeks after ds as had stickers and not as easy to find time

We waited six weeks, however I had an episiotomy and stitches, and needed to let that heal. Tbh six weeks after I was raring to go, seven months later our sex life has waned a bit, thanks to sleepless nights and general life chaos, and my going back to work, it's a lot more difficult now than it was at six weeks!

10 days - 3 weeks with my 4, had stitches with my 4th but felt fine and was healed by 3 weeks. No pain either but I was very relaxed and wanted to do it

Had no stitches or tears with DS and he was 10lb , we got back into it 2 weeks after ( I had stopped bleeding ) , we couldn't keep our hands off eachother and were very much in love and gooey eyed post birth and I also wanted to get that first time out the way as soon as we could so I wasn't afraid and thought if I don't do it now and weeks pass I'll be too frightened lol x
Do it when you feel comfortable and ready , it takes time for it to feel like it did pre baby but it does get there eventually xX