Anxiety - second birth

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Pregnant with DC2 and feel so upset and anxious about the birth.
With DC1 I had a low lying placenta so had to give birth on the labour ward. I really did not like it - contractions massively slowed once I’d been admitted for delivery as the whole place was so busy and bright.

My cervix only effaced on one side so I ended up being forced to lay on my right side which was agony. The doctor was so awful. Went for an epidural because of the pain when laying on my side which then led to ventouse delivery. I lost 1 litre of blood.

Now midwives saying I should go down consultant led care route again because of the blood loss in first birth. I really don’t want that. I feel that sense of loss of control already that was the thing that was so upsetting the first time round.

Not sure what I want from this post / just some support really. Would I be mad to insist on a MLU this time? I would like a home birth but I guess that would really be discouraged.

You’d probably be able to swing MLU if you don’t have PP again. I lost almost 2l of blood with a previa on the first birth and was being pushed into a MLU VBAC with my second.

Ask for them to talk through your options. Ask if the blood loss was due to the low lying placenta and if so if it’s possible to go to MLU if your twenty week scan shows a normally sited placenta.

Basically you need to establish if the issues you had were down to the previa- if they were and you don’t have another previa then you could try to argue that they are unlikely to occur.

If the cervix issue wasn’t connected they likely will want you on the labour ward

thanks yes, you’re right. That’s my thoughts exactly. The thing is I’m not sure if they’ll actually know the cause (there were so many things that made me likely to bleed - long labour, induced, assisted delivery, episiotomy and a tear)

But I have an appointment with a consultant in September so I can discuss then I supppse. I’m praying for a placenta in the right place!