scared for baby number 2!

[krista21]

i had my little girl two years ago,i had a decent start to laour didn't find the contractions bad and was relaxed and calm. but then the midwife broke my waters to help me start dilating faster,thats when i became a whimp. i only had my oh in the room,who kept me very calm. but the pain after they break your waters is to much:( i ended up having pethidine witch made me so drowsy when i woke up. i got scared and to tired to push so ended up having a ventouse delivery. it was quite tramatic for me,i feel so bad that i didn't just push but i physically couldn't do it anymore. I'm due with my second child in October and I'm so scared of having a similar childbirth:( because ive had a ventouse does that mean ill have another one?:/

krista21 firstly I am sorry that you didn't have a great 1st birthing experience. You are in no way a "whimp" and please don't feel bad about not pushing. It is such a vulnerable moment of your life, it can be overwhelming.

Secondly, just because you had a ventouse first time round doesn't mean you'll need one second time around. Each birth is different.

I recommend that you talk to your MW about your worries and they'll be able to talk you through your first birth and how you could avoid that scenario happening again.

Start looking a breathing tactics or water birthing options if you wish to stay away from pethidine this time round, remember you also have the options of gas&air, TENs machine (you need to take your own usually) and epidurals. Have a good look at the options, talk to your MW and your OH about everything and remember, every birth is different and 2nd one is a lot easier than the 1st.

3 years ago I had my first baby girl and I am due my second at the beginning of July, my first birth went so well and happened quite fast but I am so nervous because I have really high expectations for this birth and I am assuming it's going to be the same as the last which it probably won't

ellalouise90 lovely that you had a good 1st birth! Second births are often easier than the 1st one. Your body has done it once, it is likely to be able to do it again even better. If you are already anxious about your high expectations and are saying about how you don't think it will be same as the first then I think you are fully aware already how different births can be. So relax and just be ready to face whatever!

I had an awful first birth 3 years ago - progressed nicely to 10cm with gas and air and pethadine but he wasn’t coming down. Ended up on delivery suite with drip, failed forceps, kiwi suction and episiotomy! I had no idea what my second labour was going to be like.

Ended up being induced at 38 weeks but allowed a pool birth. Hardly felt initial contractions, sent to delivery suite they broke my waters when things ramped up then precisely 57 mins later DD was born just gas and air no stitches!

Both births couldn’t have been further apart. So fingers crossed yours will be much better second time around! And child birth is not easy so don’t call yourself a wimp! X x