Visitors on the ward...

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This is random and hypothetical but I am really worried about visiting after I have surgery. I don’t want to make small talk with my in laws, some of whom I don’t particularly like after past boundary pushing behaviour. I’m fairly sure they don’t like me much either. Que sera.

But I don’t want to be obstructive. I don’t want to be seen to be using the baby to score points. I know. Ridiculous.

My question is, can dh take baby out to meet them somewhere else on the ward while I rest in bed? Or are they technically visiting me in hospital and to see baby they need to visit bedside?

Mil was told I didn't want visitors but turned up anyway. Half an hour - felt longer!!
Got the seeing the baby thing over with and she didn't visit the house for ages which was a massive relief /bonus!!
Preferable than having to host - maybe worth considering??

It is a really special thing to meet the baby in its first few hours of life - I don’t want to take that away from any of my immediate family or dh’s.

But apart from my DH and of course my Dd I don’t really fancy seeing anyone until I start to heal a bit. I’m so excited about that moment she comes in and we are a family of 4 together for the first time.

I just hate hate hate the thought of it. I don’t want to make small talk or listen to the unsolicited advice and ... it makes me irrationally irate even imagining it.

DB should be able to take baby off ward but I don't know how far or where your hospital would have that would be suitable yet still close in case baby needed feeding.

I just had a thought. There is probably a breakfast room/dining hall isn’t there? I can’t imagine they would serve food to everyone, they tend to try to get you moving painfully quickly if I recall correctly (it’s been a while).

So I wonder if dh could take the baby down there to meet with inlaws for 5/10 minutes.

I gave birth yesterday and wasn't allowed to take my baby downstairs to buy chocolate. As you and the baby are both patients you will both need to be discharged before leaving the ward so I don't think your husband could take the baby from the ward.

There is a small discharge room here with chairs and a vending machine and tea and coffee so you might have similar that might do for your IL's to meet the baby? You could stay in bed.

When I was in hospital the maternity ward had an area with sofas that you walked through on your way in. People would meet visitors there if it was outside of visiting hours for example. Your hospital I would expect might have something like that. Your husband could take the baby there to show his parents while you rest.

I wrote in my birth plan that I did not want any hospital visitors. They even asked me before letting my husband in the day after baby was born! I also wrote that I didn't want bounty women to approach me and they were obviously told because they didn't even look at me!!