How soon sex after stitches

[ExhaustedAndHormonal]

So dd is 10 days old. I can't visibly see stitches but prob have some inside.. I no longer hurt or sting when pee or anything.
I miss being close to dp so much in 'that way,,'
I'm. Not saying we will right now but wondering what's classed as too soon.?
Dp is saying wait, 6-8 weeks ish but I don't want to lol

Oh my goodness! Good on you for actually feeling like DTD (I'm coming up to 7 months PP and up until recently - by which I mean the other day 😂 - I have had zero interest)!

But, I would say to be on the safe side please do wait at least 6 weeks because then you'll have had your check and risk of infection is less likely etc. I know some women do do it earlier, and I guess that would depend on how badly you tore or whether you had an episiotomy.

For me I didn't attempt it until 9 weeks PP because I had an episiotomy and it was quite painful and took a while to heal properly. Sex was excruciating right up until the other day.

Could you wait a little longer and then go for a happy medium (I.e. anything but penetrative sex)? Also bear in mind that you can get pregnant again I think from as little as 3 weeks PP, so unless you want baby number 2 in swift succession, make sure you are safe about it!

HTH! 😊

Usual advice is wait til the 6 week post natal check. However, if you’ve stopped bleeding, and take things gently, 3 weeks should be ok.
It’s potentially dangerous (as in life threatening) in the first few days, as during vigorous thrusting, your partner can pump an air embolus into open and bleeding uterine blood vessels, which ends up frothing in your heart and causing cardiac arrest. I know it sounds bizarre, but there have been recorded deaths. There is also the risk of infection, or tearing open suture lines such as episiotomies or repaired tears.
As a PP suggests, non penetrative sex may be a good option for a little while yet. Orgasm itself is not harmful in the circs.

Thank you. I won't rush into things at all. But I miss being close to dp in that way. I'm still bleeding slightly so it's definitely a no go at the moment 😂 lol. But will try and wait a while longer after the bleeding stops. I don't feel sore or tender otherwise swollen or anything. I was told first degree tear but notes say second degree.? So bit confused. But either way I seem to feel OK down there as in no discomfort. But obvs will not rush into anything.. X